Thank you! This is very helpful advice. I will back up all my emails. The calls were through the company phone system, but I can likely get a record of my incoming calls.

It's not actually a difficult problem to deal with. Our justice system allows for quite a bit of nuance.

They didn't even email me to meet them in person. I'd send them an email and they'd call. I thought it was weird at the time but...

Yeah, I'm avoiding being alone with him like the plague. But all the witnesses in the world won't help if they're fucking cowards.

I'm not allowed to talk to anyone within the company about this. Not even the other woman who made a complaint with me.

Yeah, I'm already searching for a new job. Fuck this place, they don't deserve me anyway.

Nnnnnnnnnnnnope. Zero evidence aside from my word.

Yeah. My theory is that he's so conflict avoidant that it'll trump his other principles.

I'm actually not allowed to speak to anyone within the company about this. HR was very clear, implied that I could lose my job if I did. I'm not even allowed to speak to the other woman to came with me to make a complaint.

I actually looked into the recording thing. Apparently it's a felony to record someone in my state without the consent of both parties.

I don't think I've commented about it here before, actually. Basically, one of my coworkers routinely says sexist things about women, says things like "you don't understand because you're a girl," makes gross sexual innuendos that are obviously targeted because I'm female, displays random hostility towards other…

I'm pretty fucking miserable. I'm definitely looking for a new job. Which sucks, because I really liked this one before all this happened.

That would be great, actually. I'm not super familiar with groupthink, but I'm taking this pretty poorly, so any forum on which to discuss it would be appreciated.

My company dismissed my sexual harassment complaint yesterday, because my coworker, who witnessed almost all of it, lied and said none of it happened.

I've had the occasional fantasy about various "freaky" things, but, to be honest, the only real thing that gets my jets revving is the fantasy of sex with someone with whom I've formed a significant emotional bond. It's absolutely not that I think there's anything wrong with fun sex just for the sake of sex, it just…

Pshht. People were mildly sarcastic to you until you started "defending" yourself by doubling down on assholery.

Being an asshole. See, if you weren't trying to be one, you would have apologized for the communications error and moved on. I said this already.

Because that's what grown-ups do. They take responsibility for fucking things up.

Yes it is. In this context, it's judgemental and obnoxiously sanctimonious. You'll notice that flocks of people all came to tell you the same thing, so if you didn't mean to be a fucking asshole, you should probably work on your communication skills. The rest of the world does not agree with you on what your sentences…

What I really love is the repeated, "but all I said was <incredibly douchey thing>!"