Thanks. I have and a lot of years were just red and loud and all rage. I still fall back into that but try not to blame myself when I do. Sending love to you

Ithink forgiveness means different things for everyone. To me it meant dealing with my pain over what she said and all the ways it hurt- some of which had nothing to do with her. It mean being honest with her about how I felt and that I would no longer be vulnerable with her if I could help it. Even if she was sober.…

Love and strength to you. We got this.

Whew this resonates with me, my chest feels heavy. How do our minds hold unto what hurts the most above all else? I am so sorry to hear this but glad your has found healing. I hope you have to. You survived- and that is magic. Sending love

I hope you are able to find some Gold in all the pain. We are strong.

needed this! Thanks :)

Hi, thanks for such a nice and thoughtful reply. I appreciate it. Your strategy for the holidays sounds very similar to mine- I try to tell myself that my boundaries are not negotiable and I shouldn’t feel bad if I can’t handle the chaos going on and need to leave for my room or own space. I have two sisters who…

My mom is an incredible woman but suffers from alcoholism. Sometimes she is a very mean drunk and during those times she has said the most cruel things about my appearance- seizing on my insecurities I had shared with her and throwing them back in my face. But the worst was when she sarcastically said my rape was hard…

My point is that gender isn’t rigid and no one has the right to police or legislate what is feminine and what isn’t. I know plenty of trans women with facial hair who are feminine and beautiful. Just fuck off

Itdoesn’t seem you understood my comment which sought to highlight the implicit logic being used in the condemnation of Sheen. I never claimed anyone was explicitly talking about his diagnosis in a literally victimizing way- but that implicitly that is exactly what is going on. Look deeper. And read thoroughly before…

Honestly loling I should have known better as I believe you are the same person who campaigns against the use of the word queer. I'm not sure where you live but it can't be earth. You're just not getting it. Hope u have a chill night and healthy life tho.

Dude, yr tripping. The economic protections and privileges loose their power once they are made universal and no longer render one group powerless while bolstering up the other. This isn't fucking rocket science.

So yr just a hateful idiot then. Cool. No point in trying to reason with you. Why don't you read a book.

Thankyou!!! I have been needing these words. Grateful.

How are you not getting this? Marriage privledges, for example tax breaks and inheritance laws, led to straights having economic protections that led to greater chances of wealth accumulation. When it becomes an even playing field they no longer have a gaurentted one up over an entire group of people. Get it?

No; your point makes no sense. Gay marriage took away systematic benefits from straight couples by making them universal: no longer were straight couples the only partners gaurentted securities and protections that kept them economically more advantaged in numerous ways. If marriage wasn’t a system of privledge why…

By accepting that there are more than two genders and that gender is as diverse as any other part of human existence.

How is it an affront to Moira’s heroism? Bravery comes in many different shapes and sizes and doesn't always look like running into a burning building.

Uh, the institution of marriage is ALL about privilege and inequality. As a married couple you not only get a level of social recognition that unmarried partnerships lack- but material and financial privileges, rights, and protections unaffordable to those who can't or choose not to marry. How you could think…

I wish people would stop commenting on unrelated articles to say things like this- it implicitly perpetuates the idea that rights are a limited commodity and as such should be given to certain groups before others. This is the same thing as commenting on an article about women’s health care with “but what about the…