Please see my reply to needsmorevolts about this. There are VERY few people, male or female, who have literally zero relationship/sex options. Most guys who bitch about not being able to get laid are ignoring and dismissing girls they could sleep with, but who they deemed not good enough. The Nice Guys of OK Cupid…

Actually, that concept wasn't lost on me, but I didn't think it was worthwhile to spend time on it. As you said, it's only probably/barely/you guess better than having literally zero options. That's not a large enough margin for me to get into discussing a small number of guys who were indeed interested in me, but…

The comments to the original article say the same thing. That a given state university with an Animal Sciences major will have almost as many experts on bovine lactation as the entire world apparently has on human lactation. That's pitiful!

"[G]o spend a decade of your life living where no one wants to have sex with you and then get back to me about what a reasonable reaction to being in that situation is!" I did. I'm a lady. I pined over dudes I was totally in love with through junior high, high school, and most of college. I dealt with a lot of…

I have a VERY small number (like two, possibly three) of male friends who are actually my honest-to-God FRIENDS. We've hung out when I was coupled, we've hung out when I was single, we hang out—get this—just to hang out together! I value those relationships very much because the older I've gotten, the more I've been…

THIS. When I wear makeup "for me," it's well within the socially-constructed "too much" territory. I love it, and I don't care who thinks I look "like a clown" or whatever the fuck. This also means that when I bother to wear makeup for work, it's because I have a meeting or something, and it's definitely not "for…

I've posted this a couple places. I think it's the only explanation possible for what was likely terrified and uncomfortable laughter. http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/meet-the-predators/

First off, you have an awesome name. Secondly, you are far from the first or only woman who jumped out of the mainstream, and socially encouraged celebration of machismo and male dominance after the water was already pretty hot. It's so hard to be That Girl, especially when you're young, and especially when you…

It's this. A lot of dudes don't get that their "harmless" boundary-pushing is setting the stage and enabling rapists within their social groups, or later in the lives of the women and girls they push around. And then they don't get that the reason they don't hear about certain experiences from women as adults is…

THIS. I grew up in a similar environment, and though my parents were great, I was afraid of their judgment of a situation with an older boy I once "put myself in," as all the popular rhetoric would have me believe I did. It wasn't rape, it was a compliance-make-out with a very drunk guy who was bigger than me, and…

Haha! No, that girl has gone on to live what appears to be a pretty ordinary life in rural Mississippi. Those types of thoughts and writing about death, murder, dying, and feeling alone are so utterly ordinary in teenagers, that probably describes a lot of teenage girls. ESPECIALLY when "The Craft" was a big thing.…

Yeah, like instead of going immediately to administration, why can't the teacher hold the student after class or after school and say, "I wonder what you meant by this. I hope you understand that, as a teacher, it's kind of scary to read something like this from a student after an event like the Sandy Hook shooting. …

Yeah, this is some "thought police" type shit. If "I understand why he pulled the trigger" is a threat of violence, then we need to burn some records. "I shot a man in Reno, just to watch him die," and the entirety of "Delia's Gone" should be eliminated from Johnny Cash albums. "Robbin' people with my six-gun,"…

1) This is why I always stop and move turtles to whatever side of the road they were headed to.

YES! The smell of the toxic by-products of a commoner's diet would send her straight to a cleanse, I bet. Sorry, GP, that's just the smell of a digestive tract that can deal with oatmeal.

I'm pretty sure eggs are for lard-asses who fart everywhere and hate themselves, according to the Goop perspective. And was that orange juice fresh squeezed this morning? Did it come from a tree less than five miles from your home? No? Then I'll speculate it is practically devoid of nutritional value, in the world…

I WAS ALSO THAT GIRL. In retrospect, my weirdness exceeded what even I thought at the time. I had a great archive of several years' worth of Horse Illustrated magazines until my mother threw them all away. "Encyclopedia of the Horse" and "A Beginner's Guide To Horseback Riding" were actually useful books, but I had…

Even in the book though, I just couldn't get into Ashley. His life at the beginning of the book had just fallen into his lap, and he didn't seem to have any sense of self-determination. He seemed to do what he maybe thought was noble or what he was supposed to do, but it wasn't really because of any sense of right…

Yeah, what omnipotentMLE said. I have read the book several times, and seen the movie dozens of times, so I occasionally do discuss one or the other without realizing that I've merged them in my head.

THIS. It's the party scene with Scarlett in the red dress that made me finally appreciate Melanie, on an adult viewing of that movie. Scarlett wasn't even going to go to the party. It takes some combo of grace and balls that I don't have to embrace the woman who's been trying to steal your husband for years, and…