Dig around on Yes Means Yes. They talk about a large range of topics, in such relevant detail, and with a wholly rational voice and perspective. If you get time, read the "There's A War On" series about the same issue of invisible rape/boundary violation occurring frequently within many BDSM communities, where…

Yes Means Yes is great stuff—I link their posts frequently because it really speaks to the cultural mythology that's at the root of a lot of these discussions.

The other two articles I linked go into other aspects of the same issues. That "He didn't understand she meant no," is a total myth, and that most rapists intentionally seek out situations that will fall into this cultural swamp of "Oh nobody really knows, maybe she wanted it, she's kind of a slut, she didn't show up…

THIS. A lot of women don't acknowledge that a rape that happened to them was rape internally, to themselves, for a long period of time afterward. It's really fucking difficult to think of yourself as someone that can happen to, and it feels a lot better to a lot of women to convince themselves they wanted it because…

THIS.

Anybody who thinks male rapists don't consciously bank on the fact that a woman just won't scream or really fight back, who thinks they won't rely on the social protection they know they'll get, and who thinks they don't rely on this supposedly confusing "he said/she said" business to stay out of legal and…

And what IS that thing with so many guys where, just because you try something once, suddenly, it's supposed to be on the menu from then on out, even if you don't like it? I had some early relationships that seriously curtailed my willingness to be open-minded about new sexy stuff for that reason. I think that…

That piece of shit. If the procedure he was doing was so great and for everybody's own good, then he would have gotten at least some patients' consent to do it. That he apparently never once attempted to obtain informed consent is all I need to know. Fuck him, I hope the court system chews his ass up and drains…

Looks like someone watched "Safety Not Guaranteed," and got inspired. http://safetynotguaranteedmovie.com/

I think NOMAS is awesome, and I wish more men knew about it. It's my experience that men are simply more receptive to that type of information coming from other men than they are to it coming from women. I think that's one reason a lot of women feminists expect to have to have an argument, rather than a discussion,…

I was talking to a young woman in a graduate program recently. She said something along the lines of, "It's just so hard to be that laid-back girl who doesn't complain or worry about anything, and is cool to be around." She has sort of an "on when we're together" long-distance non-relationship that I think is…

Yep—the gory sign-holders during the personhood nonsense were mostly from Colorado.

Jackson Women's Health is the ONLY place to get an elective abortion in Mississippi, and it is available ONLY in the first trimester. I think the hospitals only perform abortions in cases where the mother's life is in jeopardy, and then of course you're rolling the dice in terms of what doctors are super religious or…

I don't doubt that people were being obtuse on purpose. I think people do that when they can't emotionally cope with changing their mind mid-argument.

You're goddamn right it sucks. It's so ridiculous and irrational to arbitrarily change the time TWICE A YEAR, in keeping with some custom that used to be necessary when it took orders of magnitude more people to produce food crops than it takes now. Maybe if America could get its collective sleep cycle together for…

THIS. How many "so beautiful and awesome" girls become "fucking sluts" in the eyes of their exes the second they fuck someone new, post-break-up? That website is like a guide to the hypocrites and crybabies who've shamed most of us at some point.

Fellow Magnolia Stater, I know your pain. And sort of quease with an awful feeling at what the state would be without us apparently masochistic progressives. The thing is, if you get into conversations with most normal people, there are much more progressive values out there than people think. Especially given how…

I'm pickin' up what you're puttin' down. The number of comments in the theme of "cheaters deserve it" is appalling. Yeah, let's us ladies "loosen up" and "give a guy a chance" and be all free and crazy with our sexuality. Let's do that just as soon as publicly sex-shaming women dies the cultural death it deserves. …

Next time (cause you know there will be a next time!), I want somebody to object to that testimony on the grounds that the fetus lacks the mental capacity to do so.

Serves me right for knowing more about her as a celebrity than her as a singer. But I bet she has scream-cried "I'm not sorry," before.