Yeah, y'all certainly don't get a lot of healthy "what is the purpose of working out" messaging either. It's all-big-all-the-time. Could you get into cycling or running? Both of those are usually communities of smaller guys, less weight and size tends to be an advantage, and you might find some similarly-statured…

Right. And some of my comments have not been the most clear. It's been a heavy-drinking long weekend. My point to you was that I DO know men who examine, and that in my experience, men who DO examine tend to express themselves in ways that make their efforts evident. I didn't mean that no men are aware of/critical…

YUCK! I hate sudden, unavoidable, expensive expenses. A lot of trees will have roots extending as far out as the tree is tall. So if you're looking at old, 50-ft. oak trees, you seriously might have a root problem.

As with everything around sex and desire, communication and understanding of tastes are key. What a given woman feels sexy in, and what a given man thinks is sexy on women are not necessarily one and the same. Some hypothetical woman might regularly wear some kind of plain body shaper/waist cincher, having a wasp…

"Describing every man you don't know as men." That makes no sense. Did you mean to say "describing every commenter you don't know as men"?

So, I know it's way too late for this post to be noticed by very many, but I've been doing a good bit of reading in the past 24 hours and have some thoughts that might have helped clarify a lot of the discussions I saw and participated in here.

LOVE IT! What a great project!

And just like the rest of the men in here, it's "Your opinion about the clothing you are intended to wear does not matter because it's FOR MEN." Which is the entire problem with this depiction of sexuality to begin with—that women's sexuality is for and about men. Women shouldn't expect to be comfortable or to enjoy…

I love this comment! It's so true, and woman-inclusive advertising for lingerie is so freaking easy to do. What's with the insistent defense of that one kind of fantasy?

That still fails to address why THAT fantasy, despite how many women the fantasy itself excludes, is used. I have yet to see any intelligent comments about why fake lesbianism is a better lingerie-selling fantasy than, say, glorious-feeling women in lingerie that makes them feel like they're enveloped in the world's…

He's also been antagonistic to most of the commenters who criticize this marketing ploy, especially if we—God forbid—mention how untrue and alienating those ads and spreads are to us personally. The only valid perspective to him is the perspective of women who want to play lesbian in fancy drawers and their straight…

He was responding to me in another thread that got bumped out here.

That underestimation is at the heart of a ton of really frustrating posts/replies.

THIS! The number of posters who seem to be totally unaware of how important it is to criticize media and advertising, and to separate it from ourselves, is staggering. I don't know how they can just swallow whatever messaging comes their way and claim it doesn't influence them and the world and people around them,…

The initial premise is "Faux lesbian scenes sell lingerie." The previous commenter says, "Genuine depictions of female homosexuality are not what will sell lingerie." I seriously question the idea that only fake, and never genuine depictions of female homosexuality will sell lingerie, which was quite obviously what…

Thanks for this. This commenter seems to have followed me all over this comments section, criticizing comments like he's the wise professor and I'm writing a thesis or something. I posted in one place about my personal opinion/experience, without suggesting that it's the be-all, end-all of women's experiences. His…

A friend of mine has three five-week-old foster kittens. Earlier this evening, I had the pleasure of being a play and sleep prop for the most adorable, screamingest Itty Bitty Kitty Kommittee ever!

Hot chocolate with whiskey.