THIS. I'm the one buying the stuff, and most women are the lingerie purchasers in their households. And I'm not buying for my man's reaction because he doesn't give a shit about lingerie. Yet I never see lingerie ads that do anything other than tell me my purchases aren't about me. Hence, I have not bought any…

It's not direct. It's in the subtext of ideas like men wanting to have a threesome with two women. The women's homosexual behavior there includes a man because that's what women "really" want. Most men are not actually interested in observing homosexual women have sex on their own terms. See also, "Women like to…

I have never been given lingerie, I've never had a sex partner who knew my sizes, and I've never had a sex partner who even gave a shit about anything other than a fully naked body. I love lingerie, but it's definitely for me, and always has been. It's also been my experience that more women than men enjoy the…

Then find me an ad aimed at women that promises them the sexual attention and performance of gay men. Oh wait, our culture doesn't assume that male sexuality is in the service of and performance for female sexuality, so those ads don't exist. So it's not that "Anyone wants what they can't have," it's that "We have…

I hadn't thought of it that way, but I think you're definitely onto something there.

The comments to this post are so fucking frustrating. Someone literally just replied to me, "But most male sexuality is the same." *headdesk*

Wow. The lack of a mere impulse to think of yourself as an individual is truly depressing.

I disagree with the idea that the question of "how large a population needs to be before they're consistently factored into the 'default' or 'average' picture" is totally separate and independent from the fact that the assumptions we see in advertising both reflect and influence the assumptions of individuals in the…

THIS. The assumption made by an individual in a personal setting and the assumption made by an ad agency for a campaign are not actually that far removed from one another. Can we at least stop assuming that sexuality is anything other than highly individual and personal? Can we stop insisting that all male…

Come back when you can show me where I said advertising was responsible.

Then I would return to my original point and say, if the assumption is straight (and white), and the only use for "the other" is to titillate or add an "exotic" element to a scene (pretty frequent depiction of Asian women), for the benefit of the presumed straight, white audience, then I have a problem with that. To…

Her viewpoint < Boners; therefore, more fake lesbians for dudes.

Why "should" one assume anything about another person's sexuality? Just because a couple is married doesn't mean they are monogamous, for example. Just because a person has sex with a lot of partners while single doesn't mean they don't want to be monogamous in a serious relationship. Just because you meet someone…

"I'm against being used and abused as the object, and still deprived of rights and respect as the subject."

WORD. "Well of course they're catering to men. Isn't that the natural and right way of things?" Blergh.

I really appreciate this article. I think the falseness being criticized here is an unfortunate reflection of the larger society's disbelief in genuine female homosexuality. I hate how so many dudes seem to think that every woman is a few drinks away from making out with a girl for their entertainment. But truth…

I think the issue here is that far more than 3.4% of lingerie models are cast in lesbian homoerotic scenes, reducing female homosexuality to a fictional scene, a decorative flourish, for a male audience to consume. If we're going with "most people are straight," then why do lingerie scenes and ads so frequently…

Oh, BOOO! I swear, I wouldn't blame retail people for sticking used gum to the "GREAT DEALS!" they have to dole out on Black Friday.

I've had a great holiday, but right now I'm kind of miserably drunk, with overnight non-family company, and no end in sight to the "Hey, let's party!" thing. It sucks being an old lady inside, surrounded by people with such younger insides. Bleeeeeeahhhh.

Based on my very limited exposure to this show, it seems Janelle's perspective is basically, "I have zero coping skills, therefore I NEED weed to help me cope." And nobody in her life is like, "What about developing some fucking coping skills just for the hell of it?" Whether it's the psychological dependence on…