“Don’t paint yourself purple then be surprised and offended when people ask you where the party is.” I actually laughed outloud at that. Great analogy.

You don’t get it and perhaps you never will. You conflate sex with gender as if it doesn’t matter.

I agree with this! I am willing to be, I want to be inclusive. At the same time, I have bonded with women I didn’t know over asking for a pad in the restroom or bumming some Advil for cramps. That is part of the female experience for the vast majority of women. Transwomen are welcome to come in and pee with me, and…

Gender is a social construct. No gender designation can give birth. Only female bodies can.

I read an article about a trans man who stopped his treatments so he could have a baby - maybe it was the same one mentioned here - and in the story they used “chestfeeding”. I mean, it’s a little absurd. You do not feed from a chest. 

I’m not telling anyone what word to use to describe them. Use any word you want. And I’ll use the word for you when I’m talking to or about you. But to say don’t use the word vagina when talking about vaginal birth is insane and not helping anyone.

I had this discussion with a cis gendered gay male friend who is active in the LGBTQIA community and advocacy. Cis-women have been historically controlled through their biology. This is truly a thing that isn’t about transwomen and however awful their struggle is, they will never have to fear a certain serious subset…

Way to assume that me calling you a bitch means I think you’re a woman. See how stupid that is?

I am a midwife. I am very ltbtq+ friendly. I have had one trans parent and all was lovely.

The only way using inclusive language “erases” women is if you think transwomen aren’t women, or transmen aren’t men.

Is there a way to talk about what happens when people benefit from male privilege (as in, others perceive them as male and treat them as such, regardless of their sense of their own gender) during their formative years and then transfer that to feminism after they transition? All women are welcome in feminism, but I…

I mean, this is exactly the kind of over the top shit that I’m talking about. Simply pointing out that for the vast majority of human history, pregnancy and childbirth have been the purview of women makes a “bigot?”

Sure, they should have training. That is not my issue.

Hey asshole, I’m not white.

Yeah, while I understand that trans men and non-binary people give birth too, and I welcome their stories and perspectives, I do think that there is something powerfully and uniquely female about childbirth.

I feel exactly the same way. I guess that makes me a shitty person around here.

Nothing new here. Disdain for female biological functions related to reproduction (pregnancy, childbirth, menstruation, etc) is a big part of male (yes, I am talking about people who are biologically male) “culture”.

Right? If we can assume that midwives are women, I feel like, as a society, we can assume people giving birth are women. I mean, if you—somehow—run into a man giving birth, just be chill about it. But I don’t think we have to rewrite the entire way we talk about birth to accommodate the statistically insignificant…

It’s good that you’re open to corrections because you’re going to get more corrections than you can handle. Maybe grab some ice cream and settle in. Preferably with a flame-retardant blanket.

Great article overall... but I’ve never seen an article slash its own ankles so quickly...