The point is that dudes want to take the opportunity to tell us how big their wieners are.

I just said this above, but it’s really not that simple. Employers of both genders react very differently to men who negotiate than they do to women who negotiate (because, as you say, sexism).

I work in the legal industry, and when I asked for a promotion/raise that I believed I’d earned (based on time served, the importance of the case I was on, the amount of overtime and travel I’d put in, and glowing reviews of my work). From the boss who told me that yes, my work product was OBJECTIVELY BETTER than male…

Have you read her tweets? She talks about how having cis men cast as transwomen puts transwomen in very real danger. She’s informing Bomer of something he likely wasn’t aware of and can actually easily do something about.

Yes! Making it sensual is pretty much the opposite of what I want, personally. I’d like to be able to breastfeed in public without the cover, for example, and calling bare breasts sensual just fuels the fire of conservative people to believe that I’m being an exhibitionist rather than, you know, feeding my child.

Almost all my coworkers are men, so when I was pregnant they told me about their wives’ experiences. Which was kind of unexpected, and more than a little weird, frankly.

First, if you’re talking about the US, you might want to take a look at Western Europe. Lots of other countries around the world view Americans as being somewhat uptight about sex and sexuality, so we’re hardly the gold standard when it comes to sexual liberation. Second, it seems like you’re unpacking a lot of…

from the boston globe:

Maybe the problem is you and not the “whores”.

Interesting that you blame her.

...I don’t follow your logic—how have other people’s life choices (which as far as I can tell, generally don’t affect either you or me) ‘ruined’ your life? You say you wanted to marry the love of your life (did they want to marry you too?) and go to the right schools (how is this related to your sex life, or anyone…

I am stuck by myself, fighting for a career because a slob like this stole my choices.

I desperately want to know how someone else’s promiscuity “ruined” your entire life.

It wasn’t though....your life is being fun ruined because you want take responsibility for yourself and your life.

How on earth does what I do in my bedroom have any effect on you? I suggest you work on developing some self awareness to try to figure out just how absurd that notion is.

I’m shocked that you’re so bitter about your career and personal life. You seem like such a sunny personality.

Great, blame others. (eyeroll)

I am tired of people like you.

How does me getting tied up in flogged in my bedroom ruin your life?
Don’t want to fuck? Don’t fuck.
Don’t want an abortion? Don’t abort.
Your personal history and emotion issues aren’t my problem.

Don’t be pissy because the love of your life found someone who wasn’t a self-righteous POS. Move on.

When I was job hunting a bit less than a decade ago, the “common wisdom” among my fellow interviewee ladies was also that you shouldn’t wear an engagement (or wedding) ring—but back then the reasoning was not that potential employers would assume you were high maintenance. Rather, the rumored thinking was that an…