The problem with the car analogy is that a vagina is not a thing that is locked away. It is a part of a human. Women can avoid alcohol or not go overboard to maintain control of their own bodies. But our alcohol intake does not control the actions of rapists. Only rapists are to blame for the actions of rapists.

I’m glad Germany is stepping up finally, and protecting women (& men & children) from rape. But I worry that this is going to be used to justify hatred of the mythical “foreigner” with the dark skin.

I don’t think it’s anti feminist to acknowledge the fact that pregnancy has an effect on our mental state (whether we are moody or forgetful). It shows how badass we are, that we can endure 9months of that nonsense, while holding down a job or caring for other little humans or generally being awesome adults. All the…

Frankly, I was surprised I could go that long without anyone catching on. I was taking anti-nausea meds, & I thought I looked funny when I would sit in the break room. I think my penchant for wearing baggy clothes (because of my fantasticly bad self esteem) coupled with the work uniform (a shapeless black apron) kept…

Yeah it felt like I was acting in place of a therapist for so many women, who had a variety of bad experiences. I promised all my girlfriends that I would never tell them my stories (good or bad) unless they asked. If they don't want to know, I will respect that.

I was the same. I kept everything off Facebook, until I slipped up (around 8 months) with a complaint about people and their BO triggering my nausea. My husbands friends who didn’t already know, figured it out pretty quick. We chose to keep the sex a secret, so we discussed possible names for boys & girls to keep…

It’s very similar to being a bride. People ask questions that are really intrusive, or warn you about things that are a possibility as if they are an inevitability (like pooping yourself during the birth or episiotomies). And they demand to know the sex of the baby, & the theme of the nursery, & why you picked the…

This makes so much sense, not wanting to perform pregnancy. I waited until I could no longer pass for having just eaten a big lunch, to start announcing at work that I was expecting (I made it to six months!). It caused my coworkers to become very intrusive. They all had horror stories to tell, & my revelation was the…

Does molestation mean something different in the US? Because I am seeing that word being used to describe rape & statutory-rape, which feels like we are glossing over an uncomfortable topic because we are too grossed out to use the proper terms. In Canada, we use the phrase ‘sexual assault’ as a catch-all term. Is…

I'm also not in any way a lawyer (or American) but I believe the law allows marriage for minors, under extenuating circumstances with parental consent. At least that's how it works in Canada. So a pregnant minor with idiot parents could easily get married.

Yes we talk funny and our anti-vaxxers are quite stupid. I don’t know just how outspoken they can get, as I only know one mother who was anti-vaccine, but she “unfriended” all of her friends who felt compelled to respond to her posts about the “evidence” linking vaccines to certain neurological disorders. She didn’t…

I really thought these parties were going out of style. I chose to keep it a secret til my daughter was born, so I wouldn’t be forcing gender norms on my kid. I also took it as an opportunity to reflect on my own internalized biases. It was great! My relatives & in-laws didn’t get it, & chalked it up to pregnancy…