So, she found a psychologist from the Jenny McCarthy School of Fraudulent Science and Stupidity?

My mom is really good a t manipulating people. I think she’s a narcissist. She basically painted me as an anti social nut job having a crisis and as a sex crazed lunatic. She told the psychologist that I have dildos. Also, here are the texts about the metals from vaccines.

Now I’m a man that loves a good pun (and by that I mean horrible pun) but she was garbage.

Alcohol.

Wrong. There’s not a single person in this country that’s telling young men and women to “just, y’know, do whatever”. There are absolutely still rules, societal norms, and laws that young people are expected to adhere to.

I guess if you really, really like horrible puns...

guys hes not wrong

And there was the slut-shaming. I recall at least two letters from young women that had to do with sexual assault, and her assumption was always that they were just having regrets about consensual sex. Ugh.

Oh my goodness thank you and everybody responding for making me feel saner. My BF adores her and it is honestly kind of a big problem for me and I don’t understand at all. I’m working on helping him get informed and thoughtful.

I especially loved to hate Emily Yoffe-as-Prudence’s frequent recommendations that any time a friend or family member is acting outside the norm, you should “get them to a doctor for a full workup.” It often seemed completely unfathomable to her that having unusual tastes, preferences, or behaviors could ever be health…

Actually that one reminded me of the Halloween dear prudence where the person didn’t want to give out treats to the poor kids who came to the rich neighborhood. Who are these monsters?

I think it’s less that she wants women to never drink or leave their homes as that she wants to make sure men can rape with impunity. She has made clear again and again that she strongly dislikes women, particularly women who are victims of sexual assault, and she considers it a travesty that it’s even possible…

Yep. This is one of the big problems I’ve always had with Yoffe. She absolutely crucifies women for doing completely reasonable reporting measures after assault. I can never quit understand what Yoffe and her fans want women to do, other than never drink or leave their homes.

Great article, Anna.

Me too. I especially like how she’s been picking the really out there questions instead of the more boring iterations of questions people asked before.

The fact that Mallory Ortburg is Prudie is the only reason I’m willing to set foot on Slate again. Emily Yoffee is a horrible person, and she dragged down the quality of the site.

I don’t know. I think about it a lot. The cops don’t do a great job, universities have, in many cases, essentially gamed the system to make sure they don’t add to their crime reporting stats, and we don’t have a lot of alternative models.

I like Mallory Ortberg a lot more so far.

Emily Yoffe as in “Dear Prudence”? That woman should not be allowed to write. Her advice is based only how many puns she can stick into her lame answer. Sometimes her advice is actually dangerous.

I have nearly nothing constructive to add other than that was a great article and the kind of thoughtful eloquent writing that I wish happened here more often (unlike, say, a creepy post about a 16 year old boy).
Here’s my questions: What would an ideal system look like? While appreciating that we’ve been, and continue…

I did a BDSM scene with the man mentioned in your links, and I 100% believe her (although I believe any woman who speaks out; it’s a very scary position to be in). While he did not rape me, he did not maintain my boundaries in the slightest and I had to kick him out of where we were playing. And I thought, as we all…