Honestly? If this could be mobilized nationally, it would save childrens’ and parents’ health and lives. I’m all for this. I’d be part of this too! So many more social services are necessary for kids and parents in this country. How could we do something like this? It’d be like Starbucks for Kid Care. And…

ummm....Dad? You can drop me off a couple blocks away. I need the exercise, so...

Oh dear lord! So was Vanessa Paradis holding him together and now he’s unravelling, or what is going on here?

Colette said that a writer shouldn’t write about a love affair until it’s over. I’m thinking this should apply to marriages too. SEE: McMillan, Terry.

If you would act similarly, then you are also a racist. Grief doesn’t make a person spew racial slurs. Being a racist does that. There is no reason to think this reporter did or said anything untoward. She simply did her job, as reporters do every day. But she did it while being a Black woman, so the rules are…

Ding ding ding.

I rarely put “some” before white people but that’s usually what it means. There are a number of commenters here who I’m pretty sure are white who didn’t automatically make excuses for the lady. It’s not really necessary to do the #notallwhitepeople thing. We know.

I call BS on the grief defense. Most people walking around have experienced grief. Most people do not physically attack someone and call them racial slurs. I feel confident in saying that the mother has a history of physical altercations and regularly uses the N word.

Yo, maybe instead of flashing your “pretty much every minority you can think of” friends like pokemon cards, you might want to think about why a whole bunch of PoC think what you said was shitty and racist. I don’t claim to know you or what’s in your heart in terms of if you are racist, homophobic, or whatever but if…

I don’t know why some white people are so desperate to find a n word loop hole. No. That is not an excuse to call someone a racial slur.

You didn’t just say you had conflicting emotions. You expressed hatred for the victim of a racist tirade, and said she might’ve been talking shit about the kid. You didn’t just empathize with the mother, you cast the reporter as the villain in her own dehumanizing assault. That is deplorable. Maybe you should think…

I think in a lot of cases, even non white folks have been aggressively socialized to see WW as victims in any situation, and have little to no sympathy for black women. It’s really, really fucked up, and it’s not going away if we don’t call it what it is.

No. People are calling you racist because you are saying dumb shit, like ‘I have _____ friends’ and ‘people grieve in their own way’.

When you find yourself explaining that something you said or did can’t possibly be racist because you have friends who aren’t white, it’s generally a good time to stop digging.

You didn’t just say you had conflicting feelings. You said you understand why the white woman acted the way she did. You empathized with a racist. You chose the side of a woman who attacked another for being Black. (and, yes, when you call us nigger you are attacking us for being Black. I don’t give a fuck what else…

But they “don’t see color,” remember? We’re all “the same.” What a load of bullshit.

A lot of commenters are really missing the point that the mothers of Tamir Rice, Trayvon Martin*, Eric Garner, Mike Brown, and on and on and on managed not to attack any reporters even when they began flocking to report on their children’s deaths. There is another factor besides grief here, and it’s called whiteness.…

Betcha this would never happen to the next cop she sees

Good lord, I just did some googling and found out both the Michael Richards racism incident AND the Daniel Tosh rape joke kerfuffle happened there. Ugh.

Absolutely nothing to do with the reporter. They didn’t go knocking on her door bothering her. Betcha this would never happen to the next cop she sees, although they were directly involved. Grief doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole to random people because your family member insisted on being shot.