I’m donor conceived (knowingly) and when I tried to tell my mom about the nice things my sisters had said to me, she asked if this meant she had to divvy up my inheritance now. Parents can be real passive-aggressive cunts.

I did 23andMe first and was disappointed as well. Did FamilyTreeDNA and MyHeritage and became very discouraged. Finally did Ancestry and hit the jackpot. I know that feeling...but don’t give up! A friend had been searching for over 7 years and finally made a breakthrough and now has an amazing relationship with her…

Did you just do Ancestry or have you exhausted all your DNA options?

Can I ask why??

It’s pretty darn close though. Shared DNA percentages (at least until you get to the 6th-Distant cousin range) is like a bunch of rings with you in the center. First ring is your full siblings. Next ring is your parents, and your children. Next ring is your half-siblings and aunts/uncles and nieces/nephews. Next is…

You’d be surprised. You may not alone be able to help them identify their relatives, but you could be a huge piece in their puzzle. If they’re showing as 4th cousin they could be even, say, 2nd cousin 2x removed which would mean your grandparent is their grandparent’s aunt/uncle. If you have a decent family tree it’s…

There are many groups on Facebook who can help guide you through the process. I encourage you to join even if you’re not ready yet. They helped me face my fears and delve deeper into feelings I was never before able to articulate. The best route is to test at Ancestry first (largest database by far), do an autosomal…