You also missed the point of the post. It was a direct response to what do people need to do to assimilate into Swedish culture and how that might conflict with others culture. I was responding to someone who said all you have to do is follow the law basically.

Okay.  One more example and I’m done.  If I had a Muslim friend come and stay with me every summer for a week and every day I put bacon on their plate for breakfast, it would be problematic.  (Racism is more than this because I would also have to be part of the dominant society, like if instead of me, this Muslim…

If that is your take away from the exchange than you missed the point. I said pretty clearly I did not mind being asked once. It is the insistence that I do things that cultural I do not want to do. Which goes to a bigger problem of not understanding that people are different and not respecting that. (Which your reply…

The examples above may seem trivial but it adds to a feeling of otherness and being treated as other often does not happen in a vacuum meaning it isn’t just socially but professionally and when it comes to social services and other interactions. Until Sweden faces that the kind of riots and problems you guys are…

If you think that is all that Swedes expect then you do not understand your own country. I have been with my husband for 8 years and here is a sample of things that happen every single time I go to Sweden and I’m always treated that an absolute weirdo for declining and not enjoying what is being offered:

You can put on a Sweden First Hat and be very similar to our president here, who also claims his anti-immigrant positions are not racist. Guess what people can have different cultural traditions that are just different — no better no worse and wanting to hold on to those even when immigrating somewhere else is not a…

There it is. There is the very racism I am talking about. Your reply is exactly the problem I have with Swedish relatives. You assume your culture is perfect beyond reproach and play on ugly untrue stereotypes about different cultures to explain why assimilation to the one Swedish way of being is right. Thank you for…

Black woman married to a Swede. I have been to Sweden 8 times and I am planning a trip in August. Sweden is definitely racist, but the way in which white liberals are racists, so I guess you assume it isn’t racism. Meaning white Swedes expect everyone to assimilate but fail to see that Swedish culture itself is fairly…

I was pretty meh on Quentin during most of this series . He was clearly the “lead” character but consistently one of the less interesting characters and one of the more annoying ones. But he grew on me and cried watching the finale today. I couldn’t see them killing off another character and having that kind of impact…

I think we need to see how they address it in subsequent seasons to see if there was any pay off. The way I read that whole episode was really about Elliot -- just like the musical was about Margot (and not necessarily Margot and Josh).  Elliot’s lesson was that someone really loved him and he had too many barriers up…

Wow.  He has a type.  She is even Armenian too.  :-|  As far as the gofundme page foolishness, say what you want about his ex but she at least knew how to get lawyers and the right people involved when she wanted to help, see Alice Johnson.  The gofundme page was just messy and lazy.  I’ll give him the benefit of the…

I’m not sure where you get off on telling me I have stuff to work out. Me thinks the person telling random people on the internet that they have “stuff to work out” is the one with the issue.  I think I’ve made it pretty clear I’m not that invested in this particular situation. Meghan could have had a valid reason for…

Meghan had an international wedding. I think context matters. In Meghan and Priyaka’s friend group international travel isn’t a big deal, which is why I mentioned the fact that Meghan has continued to travel internationally. I’m really not that invested one way or other in their particular situation. (I actually…

I am not at all surprised by Cummings behavior toward Meadows and Tlaib. Cummings is a frequent guest on Morning Joe, which I watch just to see what the other side thinks (but I can’t bear to make myself go all the way and watch Fox). I will never forget when he was on around the time of Trump inauguration. This was…

Confession: If Priyanka did skip the baby shower because Meghan skipped her wedding, I would totally get it. I am that friend. I bend over backwards to show up for my friends and have been to wedding literally all over the world. I plan showers and bachelorette parties. But I am busy as F***. If I’m doing it, it…

I know right. It is not like he isn’t already on a hit show. What does he get out of lying? It feels like this is why we can’t have nice things, because when people are brave and speak out, everyone has a “theory” about how it just doesn’t add up. That is what people were saying about R Kelly’s victims for years.…

Ugh.  I so feel this article right now.  Yesterday, I braced the freezing cold to come into work to try to finish a project due to my team yesterday.  In the days prior me and my husband, who is at home with a broken foot, discussed me taking our daughter into daycare.  I decided against it for several reasons: (1)…

This probably will never get out of gray.  But I really do not get the way we come for biracial women.  (Yes, women because if you are Obama or Tiger or Colin, we do not come for biracial men in the same way.)  I read all of the articles about how Meghan Markle does not claim to be black but biracial and how that is a…