I put “adult reception” on our invites. Clear enough. Some people didn’t come as a result. Some people texted me with “but little Scandinavia is so well behaved you won’t even know she’s there!” Yes. I will. Also, not the point. I have a kid of my own now and OMG do I love that little nugget, but I regret NOTHING. My…

It’s really quite simple and clear - the names of the people on the invitation are the names of the people invited. So,

In our case, we are doing a small domestic destination wedding (we’re from the Midwest and going to CA) and we invited my niece to be the flower girl and his nephew to be the ring bearer. My mom has VERY STRONG OPINIONS about everything wedding-related and was actually angry with us for inviting them. But what are we…

That is super, super shitty to invite some kids but not others. I really dislike when people have child-free weddings, but if you’re going to do it, you have to go one way or the other. Fence-sitting will just piss people off, and rightly so.

I did not have children at my small wedding. It was a very intimate event and we sent formal invites that adhered to traditional invite-rules, ie if your name isn’t on it, you aren’t invited. If anyone was tweaked I never heard about it and I wouldn’t care. Not everything is a kid’s event, big deal.

I don’t understand this response. The comment I was responding to did not involve a six-year-old, but an adult woman who was well within the “adults only” parameters of the wedding but couldn’t come because she wasn’t the sexual partner of the guest. That’s bullshit.

Hand-writing “+1 child” takes guts. I can’t believe your cousin did that! You handled the situation perfectly.

As I said in another response, her exclusion was purposeful and according to etiquette, explicit. Why would I try to persuade her otherwise if she and her fiance had purposefully selected their guests? Our practical issues with attending the wedding child-free are not her problem.

I find that a lot more problematic than whether or not to have kids at the wedding.

Frankly, who you are boning is your own deal — and, there is no saying that you and your BFF don’t have a romantic relationship that you don’t want to share... ish.

No, don’t do this. Key words: “We are not close.” Diesel’s response was the right one and perfectly appropriate.

We had a no-kids wedding except for our two teenage nieces. We paid for a sitter at our home to watch the kids of out-of-town guests (most locals already had someone lined up, most likely a grandparent who would do it for free). No added expense for the parents, the kids were about 5 minutes by car from their parents,…

Let the kid starve or TELL the parents point blank bring little Jimmy/s soy based paleo gluten free quasi vegan blue plate specials with them!!!!!! I was lucky my kids eat EVERTHING!

There are gluten free things available but my guess is he still won’t eat them....oh well, that’s his problem. I’m not shipping off 3 towns over to find a gluten free pizza for him.

At some point I just shrug and assume that the parents will either bring snacks or deal with the consequences.

When my wife and I got married (10 years ago), we decided that we didn’t want kids at the wedding. Our infant daughter was the one and only exception, and we had a sitter there to take over after the pictures were taken, all the guests had finished passing her around and cooing over her, and/or when she was ready for…

Don’t get me started. I am having a food truck wedding with a carefully crafted menu of seasonal and local food. There are two kids going, one is insanely picky/gluten free. I doubt he will eat anything.

People pay for each guest, if you show up with two guests that weren’t invited...it kinds screws with everything, seating, food, etc...

On my wedding invitations, we put “Number of adults.” My cousin wrote 2 in the spot beside it and then proceeded to add “+ 1 child” in handwriting. It was an awkward conversation, but come on. I thought that was subtle enough that I wasn’t being rude about it.

My fiance and I are not children people. We asked several family members and friend their thoughts on not having kids there, and they were are cool with it (to our faces). To drive home the point, our RSVP cards say “please note this event is for people aged 12+” cause that shit gets expensive. And we are cold,…

Yeah, screw niceties and coquettishly beating around the bush. It shouldn’t be too hard to be clear and direct without being rude. Surely we have evolved to a point where such a thing is possible.