i miss being a teen and having the energy to experience strong emotions over shit that doesn't matter

If "Watching teens melt down on social media" was on our March Madness bracket, it would win in a LANDSLIDE

I thought Diane Lane, now.

MURDEROUS MINNOW MAN

Every year I look forward to voting and every year you people make me depressed.

You're a lot like America in that way.

GET THE MAYOR OF TELEVISION ON THE PHONE!

What helped me the most when I felt the same (I know what I'm drawn to, but how do I make myself look like that?) was to follow a lot of style blogs and create a shopping list based on what I was seeing and liked. It's pretty easy to find them out there, you might search "plus sized street style" or something and…

I can't decide if my dressing like a teenage boy is a reflection of who I am or if I've just given up.

Same here. It started about 7 years ago when I entered the CORPORATE realm. I didn't have the budget for anything but the most basic basics: Slacks, Camis, Cardigans, Flats. Paired with my glasses and low bun, instant librarian (no offense sassy librarians). I've noticed that dressing like this make me, among other…

I love that you brought this up. I have spent years in a major life transition, a spritual awakening, and one of the things I have chosen to do is dress as my true self, no matter how much I stand out. I am drawn to stand-out shoes, bright colors and very bold statement jewelry (and I'm not talking about some J.Crew…

I had to scroll back up to see what you meant. I didn't realize those were jeans! I thought they were shorts and didn't even notice the lower part on her legs. Not chic as shorts either, btw.

A few years ago, I realized my closet was full of awesome things that I never wore because I was "saving them" for a special occasion. Thing is, my life is extremely short on special occasions - so I decided I would wear my awesome things whenever I felt like it.

The cuts/styles I wear are definitely more simple than I would prefer, but that's a better fit for my body type than the super architectural/severe/weird art fashion my eye is drawn towards.

I think accessories can be a good place to start. A strange, wonderful scarf or bracelet or hat or whatever is low-commitment but it can transform an outfit.

I always have thoughts like this, then I remember that it took me like 5 seasons of them being "in" before I accepted skinny jeans.

Inside I feel like I want to dress really outrageous and glam. But then I think, "People might look at me though!" So I put on jeans and a T-shirt instead. The only thing I really like about my look is my two-tone blue hair.

I think my true self these days just wants to wear sweatpants! I used to dress up and have personality to my clothes and, like you said, be "drawn to" certain looks, but now if something is not really comfortable I'm just like urrrrrgggh no.

I was gonna say, her outfit is definitely urban (and she looks great, I'm not trying to hate), but nothing about it is southern or chic.

I'm my only obstacle !