Yup.

Is it kosher?

Assuming an average penis length of 5.5 inches (the first number I found (I'm not going to try that hard)) that is .87 miles of penis. She would need 1500 more men for a mile of dong.

Also, grooming a partner to accept behaviors as usual or common is another method to abuse. My guess is her childhood held some ideologies that accepted inequality in the home.

Nope. Abused women should NOT be in therapy with their abuser. It often makes it an unsafe space for the woman to talk honestly, and the abuser takes the information that is revealed as further reasons to blame and abuse.

I've spent the better part of today reading your archives. And I mean it - "better" - your Purm and you are inspiring. Lots of people will be better people for knowing you through your writing and your awesome husband's story.

She writes beautifully. This is the entry that got me full on sobbing:

I'm so sorry for your loss, Nora. Thank you for reading; Purm is an honorary Jezebel Hero.

Thank you for writing this Rebecca. Purm was also a badass feminist and loved Jezebel.

I work in the Minneapolis ad community* and this story has ripped through us like a tornado these past months. If you haven't already, I highly suggest you check out Nora's blog. It will make you cry but it will also make you laugh more than you could ever think. And sometimes that's just what you need. Real talk and…

"You'll be BEGGING for more!"

Another hero falls....

If you don't like what I said, that's fine; but I wasn't "finger pointing" - I was responding directly to something you said, which I quoted verbatim.

Whatever people say or do when they're drunk – it's already in them. Acohol only lowers a person's inhibitions. It's not like some other foreign being takes them over. Violent drunks are violent people, even if they suppress it most of the time. Couples who fight when drunk: the booze only loosens their tongues...

I find that alcohol is only a factor because aggressive people use it as an excuse to be violent.

I've certainly been drunk enough that I've said or done things that I may not have appreciated the next morning, but never anything that's outside the realm of who I am as a person. Just because he was drunk when he did this, doesn't mean he wouldn't have done it/couldn't have done it sober.

Please google the term "traumatic bonding". This is why children love their abusive parent and why women return over and over to an abusive partner. It IS like brainwashing - and it literally creates physical changes in a child's brain, similar to scarring.

Being drunk doesn't excuse any form of illegal activity. It doesn't excuse killing someone with your vehicle. It shouldn't excuse being abusive towards an intimate partner.

Survivor.