Excuse me, what? Do you honestly believe that a straight woman could not harass another woman? I can assure you that this happens, typically unintentionally/because of ignorance. But it happens. Probably not reported often though.

Yeah, I NEVER hear stuff like this from any of my friends, let alone those who identify as feminists.

The events you mention are big outcomes that happened because countless smaller acts accumulated.( Also none of those events was the result of a single person using agency, but group efforts). The current sexual harassment discussion refers to single situations where people were groped etc., often by someone in a…

Perhaps it could be worded a bit differently, but I think it’s obvious that circumstances, such as belonging to an oppressed group or being in a low-power situation or simply being physically weaker than someone else greatly affect how and to what extent we can exercise our agency.

This “lack of clarity” thing is driving me crazy. In my view, it’s either deliberate derailing or the result of approaching the issue from a very privileged, egotistic perspective: explain to me, in detail, how to behave so that I don’t get into trouble. Because apparently that’s what matters here, not the…

Of course. I’m not adopted and not trying to pretend I know what that’s like, as you of course do.

I’m sorry about your experience. But doesn’t being ripped from one’s roots and bio family also describe an adopted child, perhaps even more because adopted children usually have some bond with their bio mother, at least from pregnancy, and this bond is then cut. I understand your anger, but why promote adoption if you…

Not everyone is equipped to raise an older child that comes to a family very likely with some trauma. I would not have been, but I’m still a good parent to my bio children that I had after infertility issues (no treatments tho).

But wouldn’t those 30% watch them anyway (I mean, regardless of who is in the White House)? It seems really weird to twist reality so much if all they want is a steady flow of money. I mean, I would think that with this level of craziness they might even lose some of their saner followers. If they would not need to…

But it’s not clear what Putin wants, though. He might not care about getting caught, because his own citizens don’t care/don’t dare to say anything. He may want to cause as much confusion as possible within the US politics.

Sorry about repeating what others had already said, I got a bit carried away before reading the whole thread. I do agree re: office romances and it’s definitely good not to feed potential attraction. Thanks for replying.

I still don’t see the need to “never alone” rule, if you’re not mortally afraid of being falsely accused (and even if you are, there is the flip side that with your rule you could be accused of discrimination and of being a creep who cannot control yourself). I think it’s very easy to not ask your co-workers on a date…

I totally get a rule of not spending extended periods of time alone with someone that might be a romantic interest if you or this other person is married. It’s true that this may lead to attraction and even if it doesn’t it may be disrespectful towards your spouse. However this is about things like going to dinner…

I’m still confused about what it is that you’re actually afraid of re: being alone with a woman. If you have no intention to try to harass or sexually assault anyone, it should not matter how the woman interprets your signals. If you’re worried about being wrongfully accused, that can also happen with a man (or a…

In my understanding, the intentions or the psychological state of the mansplainer are irrelevant for the definition of the phenomenon. Mansplaining is not a psychological phenomenon and not even (entirely) social psychological or interpersonal one, it’s mainly societal/sociological. When a member of a dominant class…