Thanks for taking the time to explain that clearly and correctly. I don’t know why PharmaJerk is still stuck on the idea that assault cannot be consented to, even after your explanation, but just wanted to confirm that you’re right on.

Yes, you can consent to assault. I’m not saying she did, here, at all. Or tht it’s the same across all states. But you can consent to be hit. See: boxing, martial arts, porn, movies, etc.

It’s not perjury to say something untrue on Twitter. Just under oath. He could have said he did not rape her and it wouldn’t mean that he didn’t.

I’m super disappointed in some of the ridiculous fear-mongering stuff that has been said about HIV in the last few days and disappointed in the lack of knowledge about transmission and stigmatizing language, etc.

Yeah, this is BS. I forget my membership card all the time and am like “You know who I am.” And then they look me up in the computer and are like “Yes, we do. Welcome.”

The risk is infinitesimal. Saliva does not contain HIV. The HIV positive person would have to have bleeding sores or gums AND the other person would have to as well. I could find one “known” case of transmission via kissing from over a decade ago and both parties had gum disease (and were otherwise in a sexual…

Yeah, I’d also really like to know if any of the people I’m working with have cancer because I don’t want to catch that.

I’m ready to (sorta! but not really!) defend straw lady. It’s really just that I think it was asking for trouble to explain to a customer that you think your store’s straw policy is “asinine” and “bullshit.” Could have just said “Oh, sorry, didn’t bring you a straw. My bad.” Small mistake, no big deal. Rather than…

I have 0 problem with this. Maybe because my partner and I have an open relationship -he’s allowed to have sex with other people if he wants and tell me about it - so I find it particularly absurd to be worried about two people just hanging out. I know my partner will be honest with me about what is going on there. I…

I think it’s a joke, not literal. “Say, what’s in this drink?” I.e. “Am I really thinking about doing this? I must be out of my right mind.” Not “Hey, I’m sincerely trying to leave but I think I’ve been drugged!”

I’m curious too. I can’t think of any racist rooftop bars that serve a not-popular brunch? I can’t think of any racist-themed restaurants period, actually, so maybe it’s just me.

I was thinking this morning that my phone was slow! And has been lately. And I was totally unaware that there was a new release coming. Could there be something else going on?

It may vary by location. In NYC, 20% is absolutely the norm. I do 15% for bad service.

I only rarely even get texts for me.

My internal etiquette guide would say to not try to contact the bride/groom if I had a last minute emergency. They have way more important things to worry about that day. If they were family or a close friend, I’d probably try to tell someone who could pass on the message, but I’d leave them be.

i.e. entirely gender neutral.

That’s a tactic that should be hamstringed though, right? Want seconds on mac and cheese? Ok, but you have to do something hard and horrible first! Mac and cheese is the reward and spinach is the ordeal. Eek. That is absolutely going to stick with the kid if you set it up as a reward that way.

I LOVED vegetables as a kid (and still do) and I think some of what goes on here is that parents pass on the idea that eating vegetables is a chore. Consciously or subconsciously. Maybe because they don’t like vegetables themselves - and then kids rise to meet the expectation.

Right. I feel like doing it for someone else is worse than for yourself. Makes you like a dealer. Or like corruption of a minor or something (well, she’s 18 I guess, but close).

They changed the recommendation in the last few years. I thought from once a year to once every two years, but every three isn’t so far off. I think the resasoning was we were overtreating for abnormalties that in most cases will resolve themselves. I think a pap is recommended once per year if you’ve had HPV or an…