It is wild how much hospital policies vary not only state to state but county to county, and terrifying to think about how difficult it can be to find out exactly what those policies are. I feel very lucky to work in Portland. I attended my 75th birth as a doula yesterday and I have only witnessed one episiotomy and…

It’s entirely possible that she did exactly that, before being bathed and dressed and made up by a team of support staff. Everyone should have support staff after the birth of a baby.

It would be really cool if as a society we could increase public funding to the railway. In many places Amtrak has to share the rails with cargo trains which take priority and that (along with animals or people hanging out on the track or trees that have fallen on the track and yet somehow escaped notice) can cause…

That’s fantastic! I’m so glad things are really good.

Thank you!! <3 It was as bit rough but my energy was way up this morning and it was a really nice day. I was basically at the park in the sun for the entire day, so the warmth and the Vitamin D infusion helped everything I’m sure. Hope you’re well!

Right?? They were my main source of health care before I had health insurance and it has always been a relief knowing they were there if I needed birth control or to see a doctor. I started making monthly donations a couple of years ago and I will do so for the rest of my life. I hope that the telehealth program is…

He’s been great throughout. He went and got us dinner, and cut up my steak because we were laying low in my room watching movies on my laptop and he knew it would be hard for me to cut steak with my plate in my lap while sitting on my bed <3 . 

The ibuprofen helped so much, WAY more than I expected it would. And the steak that I had for dinner! I only ate a little bit around dinner time, it was only a few hours after I had taken the meds, but a few hours later I was starving. I wasn’t expecting that. Overall it wasn’t terrible. A little nerve wracking in…

Today is abortion day. It’s been a weird couple of weeks, realizing I was pregnant, having the absolute certain feeling that I can NOT have a baby right now, and figuring out all of the logistics to make this happen. My insurance doesn’t cover the procedure and I don’t qualify to have it done for free at Planned…

Whatever feelings that came up for you are valid. Life IS complicated. It can be a relief and a trauma at the same time. I’m making my appointment for my abortion tomorrow and it’s been such a bizarre rollercoaster of feelings since the positive pregnancy test. I’m having a bit of an identity crisis, actually. I have…

This makes me laugh the most. 

I live in Portland, Or.

Dating sucks! And the wedding this morning was beautiful but made my experiences stand out all the more in terms of suckiness.

Submarine Builder would probably be more apt.

YES. Those were the days.

I think everyone should have a therapist! We would all be better off.

Honestly I was in the same situation as your dude. My relationship was over for a LONG time and we lived platonically for two years before I moved out. Part of it was that my ex kept saying he wanted to work on the issues we were having and I believed him, but he never followed through, and then I had to save money…

Thank you! It’s crazy, I was so scared to leave my old relationship for such a long time and now that I have things are just going so well in all areas of my life, not just with guys. It’s crazy. How are you ??

Right? I texted the guy who ghosted me to say that it wasn’t a big deal for him to have lost interest or be interested in someone else, but that it was a bummer he couldn’t just say so. He has his read receipts on so I know he saw it, even if he couldn’t be bothered to reply.

I don’t know. For the life of me, I don’t understand it. But it always reminds me of a book by one of the writers of Sex in the City who talks about how guys will take crazy strides to avoid breaking up with women. Like the storyline where Burger breaks up with Carrie with a post-it note? That really happened to one…