This is pretty innocent I think. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill. It’s literally what the filter is designed for.

But is it more offensive to assume transgender people lack any sense of humor about their lives at all?

Right, but how do you know someone will not take no for an answer if you never say it?

No, I think that’s absurd. I support changing social attitudes, behavior, expectations, and norms regarding consent. But it’s not about a victim proving that they resisted, it’s about communicating and being explicit about what you want and what your boundaries are.

And this is a topic that I (granted a cis man, but assuredly a feminist) think is really important to talk about but I KNOW I will catch flak for it on Jez (which is ok, my skin is thick).

I think “stop, that hurts” is different from “that hurts” in whether it communicates that you want to stop the encounter or action, or whether it communicates something needs to be tweaked in what someone is doing to make it not hurt, but that they can still go ahead.

Khloé and Kylie think Chyna is desperate, thirsty

This article feels obtuse. I believe she is saying there is a difference between understandable and acceptable. Grown men started propositioning me when I was 12, because I looked like a grown woman at that age. This was both understandable and unacceptable. Can't we hold both ideas at once?

Thanks for this... those years help support the point I was going to make (that I’m a bit surprised isn’t mentioned above). This was probably largely a way to sneak in sexual content under Hays Code guidelines.

“Remember, you can’t depict a married couple sharing a single bed, but its the height of wholesomeness for a man to bare-hand paddle a woman’s ass.”

Nah, we might be weary of the rapists himself, but not the coworkers. I’ve never heard of someone getting side eye because their coworker in accounting got away with rape. Do you know the criminal history of your coworkers? If brought to your attention, would you quit your job? Or demand a transfer to a different…

“shouldn’t they just try piggy backing on the legalization of gay marriage? I feel like it gets dicey when it comes to things like spousal benefits and tax deductions”

I wouldn’t turn down a celebrity paycheck, but I’m often grateful to not be a celebrity with everyone always up in my grill about who I do/don’t work with, what I think of my colleagues, what I eat/don’t eat, etc.

I think Kerry Washington said it best we she said (paraphrasing) that it’s not that we don’t want people to see our race, we don’t want people to judge us based upon our race.

Then the problem is not race, it’s racism.

I disagree, for a simple reason: You are not disadvantaged due to racial identification if that identification is something you can walk away from at any time.

As a biracial woman, works that examine this sort of thing always interest me when they’re done by people who know what the hell they’re talking about. So, pretty much anyone other than Rachel Dolezel, who has never been caught between a race or culture or ethnicity or anything else. Bitch, you ARE white. You…

I had the choice to take extended leave at 66% of my salary when baby Stig was born. My wife was already on reduced salary from her leave. There was no way we could swing both of us being on reduced salaries so I took a week of vacation instead. Don’t force me into a financial situation that adversely affects my…

I don’t like the idea of requirements, because I think each family needs to be free to work it however it works for them. But I agree with you that the stigma is a real problem, and I don’t really have a good solution for how to change that with any speed.