Don't laugh but Oprah and Deepak Chopra lead these free meditation sessions. One is starting soon and it lasts 21 days, enough time to get you settled into the routine of it. You can check it out at: https://chopracentermeditation.com/

I highly recommend Clarins UV Fluid sunscreen. It doesn't smell strong, it blends in perfectly and is a physical blocker. I tend to have dry skin, but try testing it at Sephora. The only downside is it's expensive but it's the one essential when it comes to protecting your face.

Read "H is for Hawk"!!!! I'm reading it right now and love it immensely.

Is Birdman really that good? Honest question because the previews didn't interest me much. I'm debating whether to see Still Alice or The Theory of Everything in theaters.

At least your firm offers raises. I worked at a law firm where we didn't even have annual reviews, much less raises, and we (support staff) were expected to be so happy and loyal working there. My one manager would actually make digs because I left the office *on time.* Holy shit, I hated that place, and still do.

Thank you for taking the time to write these responses to me. You're making me see it from a different perspective. I need to "put myself out there" more - something I can challenge myself with this year!

Yes, the biphobia worries me and I think that's part of my hesitation. I'll never forget the person who posted here on Jez about finding out her live-in girlfriend was actually bi and wanting to break up with her/kick her out without telling said gf it was due to her being bisexual. She also was like, I don't want to…

Did you learn automatic first? I want to learn manual but my dad keeps claiming I can't because I learned automatic first.

Yes, yes what you're saying makes a lot of sense to how I feel as well. I think a part of me worried (and still does) that being attracted to, or wanting a woman, sexually but not romantically somehow played into the objectification of women. I also wouldn't want women to think I'm using them or decide not to pursue…

Thank you so much for this. What you're saying makes a lot of sense, especially that it depends most of all on your partner. I think I am getting too hung up on having other people, or the LGBTQ community, validate me as silly as it sounds. Or that I won't ever be able to explore my feelings if I'm passing for 100%…

I'm so sorry.

Russel Stover hearts? What about the Reese's hearts? I love those..the giant one, of course. I could eat that in a second.

What's with guys saying awful shit then claiming it's because they were drinking? It's such an excuse and it's kind of amusing they think it will work.

Thank you, I'm writing it down. I believe I read some of Sedgewick's work in college but it seems that post-college is when I could have used those types of readings and in-class critical analysis the most.

Haha, it's funny you say that. Every time I (half-jokingly) said I'm a spinster forever, people are very taken aback and/or defensive. I guess it has a negative connotation to them but here on Jez it can kind of be embraced!

That's a good point I forgot about, about being in a society that objectifies women. I'm glad you brought that up. How would I be thinking or feeling if I hadn't grown up with this constant imagery in the media? Not to be like "blame all the porn!" but I did start viewing it at 11 or 12.

I feel kind of silly even asking this because at my age (25) I feel like I should know. How do you "know" what your sexuality is? I've only slept with men. When I think of/see a naked man, I'm like "meh." I don't feel much. But it's the complete opposite when I see/think of a naked woman. A lot of times, I can only…

I understand that feeling of paranoia. Maybe you could say something along the lines that you are interested in exploring the option of whether medication could help ease your symptoms. CBT could be great, but I think OCD can be incredibly difficult to deal with, without medication. And I know I'm stating the obvious,…

Is it possible she's going through some mental turmoil and needs help?

I have OCD, too and I had DBT (so not CBT) a few years ago in college. I'm not sure how you feel about medication, but that is the only thing helping a bit with my intrusive thoughts/obsessions/etc. It doesn't go away completely, but it certainly makes coping a lot better. I talked to my friend's bf who was going…