I’m so sorry for your loss. That must have been horrifying. You were right to try. Making an effort can help with the pain. It doesn’t sound in your post that he came back? But he’s your friend . You needed to try.

You are performing a public service. My current, pointless battle: “preventative”. Would you say “preventation”? No! You would not. Consistency, people.

I love Lent. I look forward all year to eating McDonald's FiletOFish every Friday. The upside of arbitrary religious rules— eating food I avoid all year for nutritional reasons, because, gosh darn, it's Lent and I have to "sacrifice"!

Mark, this was beautifully and sensitively written, calling attention to some of the ridiculous situations in which performers find themselves, without ever mocking them, or otherwise treating them as less than. I was impressed, and learned a lot. Thanks!

My husband had a mustache and goatee when we met. One weekend after we were married, with no warning, he shaved it all off. He came downstairs and my stepdaughters and I all yelled "No! Make it come back!"

My husband's hair is similar to this. His beard has been going gray for years, but the hair on his head is just starting to go gray.

Hate speech isn't illegal in the US. It is protected under the 1st amendment. The only exception, I believe, is for it will cause imminent violence.

I doubt you are looking for a real answer, but the reason only the rushees are allowed to eat and drink is that it's intended to put them at ease while the sisters talk to them. Also, if the sisters eat all the cookies and drink all the punch, not only is there none to offer the rushees, but it causes awkward lapses…

Was this in 1957? Seriously. I was in a national sorority in the 80s and never heard any of these things. Sounds urban-legendy to me.

Yes, which is why some people, who don't like those things, choose to live in a sorority house.

Exactly. And even beyond the serial killer potential, who wants to have to make sure they're fully dressed every time they need to leave their room, or have some drunk guy roaming the house when they want to sleep or study? Or worry about things being stolen from their room (by someone other than the random klepto…

I don't think into the 90s is accurate. I pledged in 84 and all the sororities were dry then. We just had our parties at bars, or partnered with fraternities. One big difference between sorority and fraternity houses, at least through the 80s- fraternities had unlocked front doors and locks on all the bedrooms. …

It's kind of fascinating, really. You can so easily tell which ones are hers, with the pleasant, everything was great! tone that they have, while his are just terrifying, consolidated spite and rage. She needs to run and not look back. Quickly.

No, it actually, bizarrely, is him. He wrote the review using his fiancée's account, and the review now attacks Kitchenette at length. This leads me to subscribe to your theory that he is unaware that he is, in fact, an asshole.

And, in defense of my completely unfounded accusations, I will accuse anyone who disagrees with me of lacking "reading comprehension" or "critical thinking." Because nothing says "critical thinking" like in-depth psychological analysis of the relationships of people I've never met!

Absolutely. I think she wore them to avoid playing the "Show us your ring!" game, but they were not a great accessory choice with that gown.

I completely agree with that. No ring questions, and no being asked to submit to any of that Mani-Cam bullshit.

No, she didn't say she MADE them, she just said that she had already OWNED them, rather than having been given them to wear.

What exactly do you envision the US doing? We can't control violence in Iraq or Afghanistan, where we have had significant troop presence for over 10 years. Do you think we could just swoop in and shut down Boko Haram or ISIS? I find them as repellent as you do, but I honestly don't understand how you believe the…

My mom was the same way with my hairline. It's a bit irregular, almost widows-peaky, and every time she would see me with my hair back she would ask what has happened to my hair. Ummm, nothing Mom. Same weirdness as ALWAYS.