Fuck right off with this “lens of shame” bullshit. What I read was a person who absolutely ISNT ashamed, but has found the right path for themselves in life- we should all be so lucky.

For the people this article is talking about, “cheap and easy pleasures” don’t stop there. People come to rely on their substances to deal with trauma, stress, and the ups and downs of everyday life. It can be hard to step back from drinking even when you want to because our society revolves around it and “casual”…

Thank you for saying this. 

I’ve been sober since 2004 and it’s been amazing for me. I loved alcohol, my favorites were beer and vodka. At the end, when I was buying tall boy Budweisers from a bodega after having been to rehab twice, it was clear I was in a huge downward spiral. I lost friends, relationships, and jobs. I almost lost my car and I…

Being in recovery is hard. Addiction is a disease for many people, and for others, addictive behaviors are trying to fill some sort of hole left by trauma. It makes sense that one person would replace a substance addiction with something else, especially if you’re learning how to live in the world without the crutch…

“... I’d rather risk them thinking I used to be a raging alcoholic who had to quit versus someone who just didn’t like to drink. That’s some entrenched thinking about the role of alcohol and how it plays into our identities.”

You know, despite the largely terrible stuff on Jez in the past few years, every now and again, you guys crank out something like this. Great writing. Solid insight. I’ll probably read this piece several times.

Yes, I agree. Pretending you are just naturally super thin is the issue here, especially when everyone knows that you were not always so thin. Women, especially young women, see this and think there is something wrong with them because they don’t have that “natural” thinness. I don’t care if you want to starve…

It’s a mental health issue/addiction. Denialism comes with the territory. Plus much like substance abuse, eating disorders are treated like a moral failing. 

They do not have enough evidence to prosecute. The video is circumstantial at best. But I suppose they should charge the suspect anyways to appease everyone following on social media? Upvotes > Justice.

Yep. I call bullshit on this. While her overall point is sound, she’s is saying that when she was a bit bigger she was super unhealthy (drinking etc.) which means her current look is her version of healthy. Um. She’s emaciated. She looks thinner and more emaciated than I’ve ever seen her. And she’s looked at by…

I agree everyone is different, everyone’s story is different...and maybe she’s perfectly fine.......but there are times, when it comes to certain afflictions, that there is a common thread.

Coming from an old fart in her forties, this shit is tedious. Yes, they all starve themselves. The are generally attractive people who have plastic surgeons, stylists, estheticians, trainers, and chefs. And they also starve themselves. It’s not healthy, but they are going to keep doing it and claim that they aren’t. La…

Maybe I’m just an anonymous nobody gossiping, but this is Red Flag-y.

thank you! i was looking for a comment the justification that her “old” look was when she was “unhealthy” like its a justification for how she is now. 

I’m not invested in this at all, and agree that we should all mind our fucking business when it comes to other people’s health, but I do want to point out that what she said is EXACTLY what people with an ED say when someone voices concern about them.

Ugly girls don’t get top 40 pop music contracts. Her attractiveness is part of her brand and thus, open to criticism. Don’t want people to talk about how you look? Don’t market your physical appearance on social media.

The doctor did inform them, and after trying to get in contact with them throughout the evening after having informed them of the risk and told them the baby needed to be admitted. After 10 contact attempts by the Dr, which they ignored and refused to pick up the phone or respond to his messages, he texted and told…

This family had the same pediatrician for 10 years and it was the pediatrician who triggered the CPS process, not just some random doc that the family never knew before.

I think that’s unfair to claim that Jill’s intentions were racist. My wife, a teacher, recognizes what she was doing was basic ‘smoothing things over’, as teachers often do. I’m not saying that she wasn’t wrong, but I believe that it’s more ignorance than malevolence.