My mother is a long-time public school teacher and I was a union rep at my university when I taught. Is there waste and largesse and excessive benefits for union officials? Yes. Are they essential for protecting those underpaid folks charged with educating against wayward admins? Hell yes. Unions are a mixed evil but…

No worries I did! Once I found out that he was on the invite list, I gave the bride a month to resolve the situation (because I was not going to go through with the wedding had he been invited)... she handled the situation poorly and kept avoiding the issue while simultaneously sending me random notes about "how…

Gah. Didn't mean to post, but as someone else with epilepsy and bi-polar, you gave perfect advice.

I cannot star this enough times. Only tell your diagnosis to people whom you absolutely, positively trust. No one else, especially not colleagues or coworkers.

Except they were aware of the harassment and even volunteered to confront the guy.

I TOTALLY AGREE - Don't tell anyone people are asses - Touched by fire is great. So is this book, it really helped me contextualize the depression... the audio book is super if you're depressed and can't concentrate enough to read.

To LW#3— I have BiPolar I and Epilepsy. I'm going to give you this advice even though ten years ago I NEVER would have. At 25 I was ALL ABOUT being open and HONEST about having Bipolar Disorder. I really didn't feel I should be ashamed and, ten years later, I really don't feel ashamed. Sometimes, I actually feel kinda…

When they say "Get over it," they mean, "Shut up so I don't have to feel guilty."

I can see why she's an ex-friend.

I'd rather have no friends than shitty friends that have drinks with the predatory men that have abused me.

This reminds me of the time when my ex-friend invited my rapist to her wedding. And I was her bridesmaid stuck in an odd situation. It was her wedding and her party, yet she knew exactly what had happened to me, which made it feel extremely disrespectful.

#2: I never believed in having friends choose sides, but then a mutual friend did some pretty horrible things to me. My best friend choose him, meaning she decided I should be left out because he was uncomfortable around me. I needed to "get over it"...conveniently ignoring the fact that I tried to work it out with…

Interesting perspective. I have friends who, although they know the full story, still pal around with my ex, who beat and nearly murdered me. This is one of two experiences in my life in which I am at a loss, and feel less than the strong woman I am.

#2) This disgusts me so much. If your friends continue to be friends with harrassing douchebag, they are signaling to HDB that he can harass with impunity; that there are no consequences for his behavior. THAT is what you need to communicate to them; not that it "hurts you," but that he has violated societal norms of…

And yet even after seeing this her legions of fans will still defend her to the bitter end, and then have the nerve to feign outrage when someone calls them a racist.

Can we talk about how many awesome female rappers we have at the moment? Nicki, Missy, Angel Haze, M.I.A., Azealia Banks, Snow Tha Product.

I like Iggy, she's not brilliant technically but I still think she's a good song writer. And pretty fancy.

Problem with Iggy is that she's just not that good. Even her rap accent is terrible, labored.

This album was disappointing. It's pop, not true hip-hop, which is fine. But Iggy is coming out like she's a pure rapper, a la Angel Haze (who can actually spit) and that's sadly not the case. The album is just.....bad.
"New Bitch" makes me want to vomit.

I have a few observations of Barbara Winfrey - she was an assistant principal at my high school.