While I think the entire nation is in an abusive relationship with 45, I wouldn’t equate this to an actual abusive relationship. There are plenty of reasons people can’t extract themselves: economics, family pressures, a spouse who literally sleeps with a gun on the nighstand so you don’t.

I saw this today and think it would also be excellent, especially for younger kids who would terribly miss their parents or siblings:

I think it’s intrinsically a protest to celebrate yourself when you are not the dominant culture. However, in the last 10 years, I’d say it’s become much more of a true celebration in all cities given the gains the community has made.

Yeah, always do things for you and the ones who love you. It’s just icing on the cake if someone else gets to enjoy the fruits of your labors.

Don’t mention it. Misery likes company and what you’re thinking about when you say something like that is testimony to how deep gaslighting goes. I mean, I was literally fighting for my life and my infant’s life in my house. When you realize that you shared a bed with your worst enemy and that he’d occasionally do a…

Don’t mention it. Misery likes company and what you’re thinking about when you say something like that is testimony to how deep gaslighting goes. I mean, I was literally fighting for my life and my infant’s life in my house. When you realize that you shared a bed with your worst enemy and that he’d occasionally do a…

I’d mandate that all states have to be on the fucking marketplace and can’t turn away the dollars - kind of the way highway dollars were attached to DUI laws.

He’s being shitty and that doesn’t sound like what attracted you to him in the first place. I know it’s been the mantra of the last year, but when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

That emotional labor sucks. Sending you good vibes for whatever happens next with you both.

I’d tell him it was inappropriate and let him know you’ll be talking to his parents about it. Perhaps they’ll be shocked that he’s sexualizing girls at his age. My guess is that they won’t and he probably gets that kind of language from his family.

A repairman in my house told me yesterday he’d never met a woman who’d put anything together all by herself after seeing my spin bike. I almost went off on him, but he was twice my size and had just been in my attic and backyard so he’d know exactly where to leave my body. Ha.

Just want to pipe in that your ex’s abuse was not your fault, if that’s what you meant. It’s your ex’s bag, not yours. Any of the things you may not be proud of that happened during that time are also not your fault. Abusers are people who are so low that they take you down with them.

Just continue being her friend. As someone who dated someone who turned out to be a total waste of space, I can vouch for the fact that having friends when you’re isolated is key.

I do things by myself half the time and in groups half the time. I’d say tell yourself you won’t leave the networking event until you start a conversation with three people you don’t know. A lot of networking events make you do something like that anyway, so it won’t be weird.

Cree Summer’s in there, too. Oops. She’s not. My bad.

This is seriously the worst stereotype about Los Angeles. I’m a native, I’m a Black woman and I have hips, a behind and a bust. The Los Angeles you’re thinking of is the one promoted by people in the entertainment world. Well, guess what? There are dentists, custodians, librarians, art students, farm workers,…

Fine, let’s go with your premise. I still highly doubt that deeply religious people will see someone who’s an “ex-gay” as truly purely heterosexual enough for them to date or marry one of their children.

Sounds healthy.

I’m still super confused about why they’re telling Black children to go “back to Alabama and Mississippi” like slavery didn’t happen in their North Carolina county and probably on the grounds where they have Field Day every year.

Black and Latinx children get suspended and expelled from preschool and kindergarten for behaving like five-year-olds. These kids need to be expelled. It’s terrorism and impacting the learning of everyone on campus.