Super similar with me and my dude, though I don't think we've ever had anything escalate to an actual fight. One of his friends said we deal with everything very Spock-like and are logical about all of our arguments. We've joked around that we're both waiting for our first big emotion based blow out because it's…

Dr. Gottman would call you both superstars. (Ever read him? He's fantastic!) Those overtures, and accepting them, are a big key. That's exactly why, even when I'm furious, if see my husband trying to make me laugh (not to blow me off but to break the tension) I really try to "accept". It helps a lot to get on to a…

Oh, I wish! If only most guys DID already know that they shouldn't rape people! - The fact that it keeps happening so much indicates that, by the time they get to college, many of them don't really know it too well, and are in need of explicit instruction.

Judas H. Priest on a Rollercoaster, that is absolutely bassfucking ackwards. What a sick place we live in when telling people "don't rape" is construed as (cough) "actions against freedom of conscience" (I'ma go out on a limb & guess Self-Styled Libertarian here).

Let's see. Self defense unit in high school gym, every year, for the girls only. Mandatory. The boys played football. Consent was NOT a part of coed health class. Two day self defense workshop and lecture on drinking freshman year of college. Women only. Graduation requirement, aka mandatory.

As a guy, I have one thing to say: are you fucking shitting me? So, somehow, these conservative asshats think we should only teach women how to avoid being raped instead of teaching men about what consent is and about not raping?

I don't think people are saying he is a racist because of the drawing, they are saying imagery like that has a history of racist undertones and many people take offense to images like that and someone needs to tell him that it is not cool. There's a difference between calling someone a racist and saying an action or…

Here's the problem with anyone who looks at cancer drug trials that are now shut down because of the GOP gov't shutdown and says, "Oh yeah, those are just trials so it's not a guarantee of effective treatment." For those who have no other options, it's not only their last chance to try something that at least made it…

The comments about Emma Roberts IS an American horror story.

Dr. Wade: You blatantly misrepresent Helliwell's account (which has its own known flaws), and then use that misrepresentation to craft a grotesque leap in logic that bears relevance to the reality of sexual violence only in your own imagination. And to do so you had to reach back to an article published in 2000, so…

I'm going to be my usual bitchy self here and say:

His death is the subject of the third episode, not the first. The first two episodes (the Beatles tributes) were written prior to the summer hiatus and they had to go into production so soon after his death that they didn't have time to properly write anything to address it. Instead, they dusted off the episodes that…

During his career, Mariano pitched in 96 playoff games encompassing 141 innings. In that time, 11 men scored against him. 12 men have walked on the moon.

So.. does she still need to make sandwiches AFTER the engagement ring or does he make her sandwiches from that point on?

Somewhere in the world a woman is working in a lab researching the genomes to cure deadly cancers and this chick is making sandwiches for a ring and that's what gets posted on a website for women.

The novelty aspect actually makes this even worse. The concept of the "novelty" of black women is one of the primary reasons why black slaves were raped. It is why when I go to a bar or a restaurant where there is drinking, white guys and their girlfriends will drunkenly grope me or ask me to participate in a sex act.…

You'd think that if a dude actually believed that "his whole life would be ruined [because] the girl always wins" in the case of a rape accusation, they'd be even more determined to assure consent before having sex.

I had a discussion yesterday with a colleague who has been victim to stop-and-frisk and we were talking about street safety for people of color and women (over 60% of whom are "of color" in NYC) and how both police harassment and street harassment effectively segregate the city into safe and unsafe areas—that is, some…

Five months? Dear NYTimes, please call me. I could have written that, with better research and writing, inside two weeks. (Let's be honest, most of us could have churned out what she wrote inside a week, but I want a week to fuck off, too.)

Not really, guys do it all the time. They're usually a lot less euphemistic about it, too. What are the pros and cons of friends with benefits vs. a one night stand vs. a relationship? It's a cost/benefit analysis. At the end of the day, when it comes down to it, my life is my business. I'd rather not "break even" by…