Five months? Dear NYTimes, please call me. I could have written that, with better research and writing, inside two weeks. (Let's be honest, most of us could have churned out what she wrote inside a week, but I want a week to fuck off, too.)

Not really, guys do it all the time. They're usually a lot less euphemistic about it, too. What are the pros and cons of friends with benefits vs. a one night stand vs. a relationship? It's a cost/benefit analysis. At the end of the day, when it comes down to it, my life is my business. I'd rather not "break even" by…

Now that's what I call a Barbie-Q.

Amazing how many people willingly and quickly align themselves with Team Rape. Don't you realize you will always be the asshole in that situation? Always? Doesn't matter if male victims are getting ignored (which is awful), if there are x false rape accusations (which is barely any), etc. You are STILL an asshole when…

Yes. This. Thank you. I'm in my thirties and have had lots and lots and lots of sex with lots of different people. I don't like saying "for the wrong reasons" because... you know, you do what works for you at the time. But I'll say, "for reasons that did not encourage me to focus on my own enjoyment." I've only…

As a virgin, thank you for promoting the end of prude shaming as well as slut shaming.

THIS. I much prefer the term "sexual debut."

I agree 100%. I'd say that for me, losing my virginity was no milestone at all. What was a big deal was the first time I had sex because I explicitly told someone I felt ready to have sex with them.

I like that. I think part of the problem with Virginity meaning so much is that it really takes away from the natural step up that most young people do. We didn't go from kissing to having sex. We said yes to this but no to that and slowly took steps leading to our decision to have sex. (It's like that horrid…

A million times this. Putting so much emphasis on virginity, and losing it, can mean shame for a lot of people for whom it wasn't a good experience. For some of us, it was the worst experience of our lives. I really like your idea of discovering what works for you and really implementing it. That's way more important…

I watched a very interesting documentary recently (which of course I cannot find the name of, google, why do you fail me!) that addressed what white people can/should do to confront racism. I don't know if the letter writer is white, but if I assume that she is the concept is relevant. The basic premise of the…

Is this meant to indicate that she doesn't look different? Because it only demonstrates how different she looks, to my eyes. The theory that she was made to look this way for the show is laughable.

Yes, I haven't even seen season 4 yet but it is quite clear to me that the "plastic surgery" is not real.

Spot on. Bynes is/was adorable, but she's not conventionally "sexy-looking" and I think she may have found this limiting in terms of her career. The way she uses looks to lash out at women who criticize her even when that's not what anyone was talking about anyway suggests she just can no longer see the world in any…