don’t be an asshole.

thank you!

I did but I also had to talk about it with the police, with campus security, with Title IX...it wasn’t the talking about it. It was sounds and smells and feelings and seeing him on campus. CBT was more like, when you hear that, what can you do to not panic? You can center yourself, you can take three deep breaths, you…

So what? How does that hurt you? Who died and made you the queen of confronting things? We’ve established that PTSD is relatively common. We also know that sexual assault is underreported so there might well be a lot of people with undiagnosed PTSD as well. So someone who is not officially diagnosed benefits, so what?…

I didn’t ask to get raped. The society that taught boys and men that women are there for the taking can deal with the burden of a fucking sentence at the top of a syllabus.

if you know dudes who think that they have PTSD from getting dumped, all that proves is that you know some shitty people.

I WAS RAPED. I HAVE PTSD. I WONT DIE WITHOUT A TRIGGER WARNING BUT IT WILL KEEP ME FROM HAVING A PANIC ATTACK. GOODBYE TO YOU AND YOUR CONDESCENDING TONE NOW.

lol no the topic is trigger warnings, you are a the weirdo trying to talk about co-opting ptsd by yourself

ugh you're a champ dealing with these people who have no understanding of mental illness and clearly don't want to learn. i second this point as well.

EXACTLY. exactly. why does being a woman mean I have to prove every single fucking thing I feel beyond a doubt, and then fucking put in ten times as much effort, emotional or otherwise, to change the situation. and even then people think you’re being “hypersensitive” which undermines the change, works to invalidate…

You don’t believe in them, so fine, don’t use them. Other survivors say they do help them. Denying them trigger warnings does what for you? Is everyone just like you? Should everyone heal like you, on the same timetable? Has everyone had the exact experience you have, the same support system? It’s great you feel you…

they’re telling neighbors what their triggers are, since they’re combat veterans.

If your method of coping is to shit on other survivors, then you need to find a new one.

Not really arguing, but the news generally does give “warnings” of graphic or disturbing materials.

Gosh, Mr. Thought Experiment, idk. But if a professor says “Hey, Lolita deals with the sexual abuse of a child,” and someone decides they would rather not take that class, or they make sure they have someone to talk to about the feelings they may have when they read it, or they just feel better prepared to deal…

I’m a woman and I’ve been raped too. I have worked very hard to get better—and I have—but there are still some things that put me back in the moment and trigger the flight or fight response. It’s a process. Allowing me and other survivors the tools to deal appropriately is not denying you anything.

Some veterans in my neighborhood put out signs around July 4th that say “Combat veteran: Please, no fireworks!” and people don’t set off fireworks on that street. Zero pushback, no pearl clutching. But when my husband tells me as rape survivor that the movie I’m looking at on Netflix has a rape scene, so I can avoid…

Exactly. It’s not like “hey, this might make you angry.” It’s more like “hey, this might make you relive some terrifying shit you’ve been through.”

Also, cite your sources that aren’t Fox News. I think this is way overblown and some old dudes are outraged that young women in particular expect literature and media with themes of sexual assault to be treated seriously and not just brushed off.

It’s pretty common for rape and sexual assault survivors to have PTSD, although it often goes away with time. And it’s not like women tend to get assaulted at college or anything.