BOOM! And with that nasty response you just proved everything she said about you to be true. Fall back on the “bitter” black woman stereotype instead of simply remaining silent and realizing voices like yours are heard all too often or trying to reflect and understand some of what she was trying to say. I also dislike…

Thank you for your bravery and insight sis. I almost bought the bridge she was selling.

For Black women we don’t often get affirmed about our greatness from most people including Black men and something about how he adored her and valued her friendship moved me in so many ways.

In my experience, white women have tended to accept the scraps that white men allow them (and it’s shit, frankly) because they have seen no real way around it without divorcing themselves from “acceptability”/white society. Since it was the epitome of white womanhood to marry and have children, that was out until…

This is extremely well-written and so damn true. I’m a white woman and when I read the author’s line, “For some reason, my mother has always hated Hillary Clinton. I don’t know why.” Oh boy. I did. It’s just misogyny. One so internalized, memorized and fetishized that they don’t even know what it really is. Just…

Thanks for your comments,
Some good advice here. We do have a lot of expat US Black friends, whom we see regularly, and yes Black Women are included in that group.
We celebrate US holidays together, and gather around soul food.
We are also surrounded by a lot of friends from various African countries.
We’ve been married…

Yeah he seems like a complex person—lots of layers of good and bad as you say—and probably some of that comes from that identity limbo. I imagine it would force you to do a lot more inward thinking than most people, which can lead to deep understanding but also overthinking and anxiety.

Thanks for this insightful comment. It’s giving me things to think about personally, but it also makes me wonder about Obama’s hesitance to really come out and support Black Lives Matter like people wanted him to. He was always verrrry careful with his words and I chalked it up to that, but I wonder about him being…

It’s amazing how it’s always brought up. Like, having sex isn’t difficult. Idk why they think doing that with black people shows effort and grit on their part.

“A mother and father are not born after a child. It is a role earned over time through love and respect.”

A bi-racial (black /white) friend were talking about this. We both noticed that bi racial kids with black mothers are better adjusted in their identity. Which when you think about it makes sense. Black women have been raising bi racial children for 300yrs and running. White women have been raising bi racial kids for…

These days I’m not much for prayer but I pray extra hard for those Black babies with specifically white mothers.

I really want them to realize how insulting it is for them to drag their babies into a discussion where they were being problematic.

As a person who originally felt certain statues should remain in place, the biggest game changer was reading when and why many of them were installed. Particularly the dedication speeches of the statues. Those really should be reported on, moreso than the statue itself.

I know it’s not shocking, but it’s heartbreaking to hear someone talk about how their own mother chose whiteness over their children. And wanting to take you to a step-family’s Thanksgiving? Just gross.

See, this is part of the crux of the problem. They do not understand what their actions mean. ‘I did a completely racist act’, but I am not a racist. WTF?

I’ve heard the hour-long goodbye referred to as the “Minnesota goodbye.” As all my relatives from Ohio, Michigan, and western PA do it too, it’s probably more accurately called the “Midwestern goodbye.” Because Midwesterners are just so genuinely, guilelessly nice and concerned about not causing offense that a…

I still like her, but my heart was broken when she embraced that Rachel Dolezal nonsense. I couldn’t close my mouth watching her empathize and agree with a woman in light-skin face, and then act like she didn’t understand why Black women were so offended. I will never understand (well, I think I do understand but it’s…

This is like a real damaging mistake. Because other people who don’t want to take the time to realize that those two things don’t go together are going to flame The Root for shit they didn’t even say.