No. Sex positive means you don’t judge other people for the ways in which they consensually engage - or do not engage - in sex with others. Grow up.

Relationships are nothing without sex, obvs! Anyone who at any time is less than 100% enthused about sex with their current partner couldn’t possibly ever enjoy partnership, shared activities and responsibilities, sexual and non-sexual intimacy, affection, friendship... NOPE. ALL SEX. IN COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP, SEX…

Oohlala is relentlessly pursuing an extremely insulting, rude, and inappropriate line of questioning about someone else’s sex life and then making judgments about it (the number of time’s she’s called boredatwork “selfish” is awful). That’s asshole material, no matter what her feelings on asexuals in relationships…

I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this dweeb. Your ex sounds sexual coercive and the dweeb’s rethoric is sexual coercive. Normalizing their sexual expectation and more or less arguing that you (anybody) owe your (their) partner sex. Because you’re in a relationship, you’er healthy, the majority of people needs it,…

Dude, people are very much allowed to “unilaterally” decide not to have sex. Other people are allowed to “unilaterally” decide not to be in a relationship with someone who does not want to have sex with them. “Unilaterally” is, in fact, exactly how someone’s decision about whether or not to have sex or be in a…

You have been far more indulgent with this incredibly intrusive and insulting line of question than you had any need to be. This person’s insistence on knowing the intimate details of your sexual history so she can decide if you it’s “allowable” is just creepy and inappropriate.

You are unbelievably and obnoxiously pedantic. “Like the plague” is a figure of speech. Get the fuck over it and mind your own business.

You are being super fucking creepy, insulting, and judgmental about someone else’s sex life. Knock it the fuck off, you pedantic ass.

So you’re saying that someone is never allowed to change their mind? Because if you enjoyed sex at the beginning of the relationship and then for whatever reason change your mind and no longer have interest, that’s that person’s right. It’s also the other person’s right to say the terms of the relationship have…

God, shut up already.

Didn’t you know? Sex positive only counts for having lots of sex. If you don’t want to have much or don’t want to do certain things or don’t want to do anything at all, you’re out of luck.

I waited until I was married to have sex.

That’s not exactly the attackiest attack I’ve ever heard.

Um...

Oh, buddy, that’s not why they won’t fuck you.

Ugh I hate celebrity savior tales. If something happens near you, you help. That is just called being a person. Why is it extra wonderful when a famous person acts like a person-person?

I’m really guessing men have always been this entitled, but women have only recently gained financial independence so we don’t have to put up with this BS.

So basically, this acquaintance thinks that he is the guardian of your snatch and gets to dictate when and to whom you should open your legs for? Sounds like him casting you aside for not following orders was an excellent win for you. What a complete jerk.