Yet women are expected to regularly put various chemical substances or foreign objects into our bodies for contraceptive purposes. Oh, and then we’re expected to put another human into our bodies and then let it out in spectacular and painful fashion. So, yeah...no sympathy from this quarter, I’m afraid.

Aww, poor baby. Ladies get what looks like a pair of salad tongs shoved up them annually for “well woman exams.” I got a rod shoved up my cervix to get an IUD and I’d rather stick a needle under my fingernails than feel that pain again, but heaven forbid a dude have to endure a bit of discomfort to avoid unwanted…

As someone who just went through the agonizing pain of having an IUD inserted, cry me a river, buddy.

You know, it would probably take 5 seconds and wouldn’t even hurt because they numb the area first, right? Maybe you’re just been flippant and I’m taking this way too seriously, but comments like yours about this article are making me roll my eyes so fucking hard. Women have to go through so much poking and prodding…

Given the pain regularly associated with having female anatomy, forgive me if I have zero sympathy for dudes scared of a needle poke.

I’m sure it does, in many cases, but I really hate this narrative of “If someone does something awful to you, that obviously proves you are an awful person who brought it on yourself!” It can absolutely be true, but it’s just as true that sometimes people are horrible to other people for no good reason.

You didn’t think that cutting off contact with a person you purported to care about with no explanation was shitty? REALLY?
Or maybe you are just a coward and cannot admit it.

Nope, having done both types, ghosting is worse. It tears at your self-esteem and soul. At least with a scream, you get stuff off your chest. Ghosting is easier for the person who does it but it’s cruel. Cruel.

Better for you, you mean. It’s extra horrible for the other person. Plus, ghosting or nasty, drawn out breakups aren’t the only two choices. Breaking up doesn’t have to mean horrible screaming matches, especially if you don’t let it devolve in to one. It doesn’t even have to be a particularly long conversation or…

Do you have the word “teen” in your age? Because that is the only reason ghosting is excusable. Otherwise you either have the maturity of a teenager or are just flat out a terrible person.

Unless you’re truly afraid they’re going to be irrational (like, boiling a bunny or stalking irrational)? No. You’ve got to suck it up and say “I’m sorry but this is over.” It’s super hard and it makes the person breaking it off feel like shit, but at least the dumpee isn’t spending weeks wondering if he/she is crazy…

That’s pretty mean. Hopefully your inability to communicate when you’re not interested doesn’t come back around on you, because I wouldn’t wish being ghosted on very many people. It fucking sucks.

Actually, telling people why you’re removing them from your life is always kinder. Face those emotions, and tell them why you’re leaving, as adults. Then you’ll give those people, with whom you’ve probably shared hopes and dreams, closure. Ghosting is just horrific and a dangerously emotionally paralysing.

Better for whom? It’s not like the emotional fallout doesn’t happen, it’s just that you don’t have to witness it. Generally speaking, if you’re making a choice that leads to another person absorbing a greater share of misery in order that you might be able to absorb a lesser share, it’s not an ethical choice.

It means you need to grow the fuck up, be an adult, and learn how to handle the shit you get yourself into. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away like you think it does.

take responsibility for your emotions and the affect you have on people - good or negative. if you enter into a relationship with someone you need to act like a responsible human being, no matter how much it makes you uncomfortable. it is deeply disrespectful to ghost someone just because you don’t want to “deal” with…

I'm not interested in being someone's fap material (there's nothing about me that would qualify as fetish-material anyway; I'm just average-looking). I'm interested in a mutual connection/life partner. Some of us just missed the boat and the numbers aren't in our favor.

be attractive but not intimidatingly so...my male ego is fragile, you whore.

There is someone out there for everyone. Ugly or frumpy or fat or whatever. I am both frumpy and fat and I have never had any problem attracting a man.

A decade. To me this is yet another anecdote that goes into the pile of “talk therapy is a scam.” My own experience provides the bulk of the pile.