pity that fucking movie is not a typical example of a BDSM relationship - OUTSIDE OF THE SEX, that relationship is the most fucked up, controlling red flag of manipulation and emotional abuse.

There isn't much sexually I haven't done, and I am a fan of BDSM, but that piece of tripe is not only an insult to BDSM, it's…

FSOG a might not be accurate as far as BDSM goes...but then neither is The Story of O,

FSOG is in no way a story of a consensual BDSM relationship. I have been in one. It is in my sexuality to be attracted to them. However, unlike the IDIOT of an "author" of the Twilight fanfiction that is Fifty Shades of Grey, I actually did research upon entering the community and know that a BDSM relationship is all…

FSOG is in no way a story of a consensual BDSM relationship. I have been in one. It is in my sexuality to be attracted to them. However, unlike the IDIOT of an "author" of the Twilight fanfiction that is Fifty Shades of Grey, I actually did research upon entering the community and know that a BDSM relationship is all…

Oh, you assume that I was referring to the BDSM part of the movie. How nice. I was actually referring to the parts where he sells her car without her knowledge, where he breaks into her apartment, where he nags and pressures her about that silly contract, and when he tells her she can't go visit her mother because…

I think the purpose of Family courts and CSA should be to protect the rights of the child, not the parents.

He is doing out of his own time so it is not a official case, if he can't do anything to help her at least he can try and help any other clients he has. I will also try and see if there is anyway to set up a Go-Fund me account and I will get in touch with some charities that I have worked for in the past. Honestly I…

That's fantastic. If she needs to crowdsource anything (legal fees, etc.) I hope you'll send something to the tips line and Jezebel will follow up.

also there will be no visitation seeing as he not allowed to visit them when he gets out of jail

You make it sound so reasonable. It's OK that the father be at risk? Maybe domestic abusers in the UK never take out their anger on other family members, but it happens enough elsewhere that its a legitimate concern. Also, the children will have to be trained to not disclose any information about themselves or their…

You don't think this guy will go after her father to get to her?

I had similar questions. Why can't someone else do this? If the letters from the monster go to his father, why can't the father send letters and photos to the monster instead? If the purpose of this is to allow the monster to be kept in the loop regarding the kids, then why would it matter who actually does it?

How can someone who beat the shit out of this woman and slit her throat in the presence of their children, and left all of them covered in blood EVER EVER CONCEIVABLY PROVE HE IS REHABILITATED??? Would the judge want that visitation happening at his house? I think not! So how can they foist it on this woman and the…

Unfortunately when the law was changed to enable fathers to see their children when mothers were with holding visitation rights it completely ignored the mothers rights in domestic abuse cases. From what I've read it is only in cases of child abuse where visitation can be clearly withheld. However my personal…

Agree. This is just all kinds of fucked up. This is where a judge is supposed to exercise his/her discretion. What the fuck is wrong with people?

Honestly, *this particular guy* should be restrained from making contact with his kids- ever. If the kids decide at 16 or 18 they want to contact him, fine. That is their choice, that is their right. He should not be able to decide for them, though.

I think there are a lot of other men in prison for whom we can make…

I had the same thought. Can't a social worker write these letters or something?

Seriously. Can't someone from their version of CPS handle communication with the father? It seems like a very undue burden on the mother.

Does she have to do it herself? Could she get someone else to write them? Why is this even something that a court would order to be done? Is this some kind of uniquely British thing? I've never heard of anything like this before. Was the abuser best friends with the judge and he did it just to fuck with her? What kind…

And this is what happens when people make well-meaning laws without sufficient safeguards in place to protect those that need protecting, or without sufficient discretionary clauses.