Here's the thing: our system isn't just about supporting whatever the majority wants without criticism, without taking into consideration how it effects the minority, and whether or not it's actually a bad idea. This is most evident on social issues like civil rights, integration, gay marriage, etc. Even IF the…

It's perfect, thank you. I'm just sorry I didn't know about it before. Thankfully I follow a lot of the Twitter folks, always helpful to know more. FYI, are you on the Twitterverse? I am, same handle. :}

Thank you! Especially the lists, I really want to make sure I point out the other intersectional feminists (especially women of color) who have done great work on being an ally. What I mostly want to do is appeal to other white feminists (as in, please listen) about the ways we need to be better, listen, and stop…

We all do. It can be overwhelming at first and I don't think there's been a ton of discussion by white feminists on being an ally (in a truly helpful) way so it's not as mainstream as it could be. There are some amazing women of color on Twitter and places who talk about this a lot, tho, and it really helps give a…

Oh, thank you, that's very sweet. :} I've just gotten way fed up with people really not getting the whole "ally" thing, which is really not that complicated. I probably should post on Groupthink more because the regular comments are making me so sad.

This is all just so frustrating. Like, the people claiming it's cultural relativism? No, it's really not. It's not deciding you know what someone else's issues and priorities are without asking. Of course no one thinks FGM and child brides are something we should condone happening. But "white savioring" it doesn't do…

Wow, a lot of people in this thread really have no idea what being an "ally" means. As in: do not speak for other women, especially if you are are a privileged white woman who is assuming she knows what the "real" problems are for someone else. I know you know this, but jesus, this thread is depressing. Being an ally…

South Park is practically light years away from the crap that is Family Guy. While South Park is crass and offensive, it punches up, not down. It doesn't take itself seriously and it uses actual humor, not random pop culture ref's and insults. It requires thought and comedic skill. And yeah, a LOT of the time it is…

I'm gonna be "that" girl and mention that the lactic acid in dairy products like sour cream and yogurt actually are great for gentle skin exfoliation. Especially if you have sensitive skin.

Yeah, the things that go into an individuals ED is always as unique as the person themselves. Different things trigger it, contribute to it, and layer into it. Some things are components on some level regardless of the specifics, like control and the space issue (at least in terms of starving/purging) and trying to be…

Yes, that's also often a component. ED's and their cause are very personal and generally a combination of things, tho control is always in there.

It's directly related to ED thinking, at least from what I've read/experienced. The idea that you're taking up "too much space" becomes all encompassing and is a major factor in the thought cycles that promote ED thinking and behavior psychologically. Starving/restricting is where it's most obvious, because never…

I kind of love this from a fantasy fashion/modern gothy perspective. The weird sleeve shape, that's points and then bubbles out, is AWESOME. It basically all looks like it's for a sci fi fantasy movie for Helena Bonham Carter...

I'm an expat living in Germany. The healthcare here, which you pay for with taxes, is LEAPS better than anything I had in the US and we had "good" insurance. They're also much bigger on preventative care here and people go to the doctor more often.

I agree that keying a person's car because you don't like something on it is wrong.

Are you actually arguing that words and actions exist entirely separate from one another, that what we say isn't influenced by what we believe,? You are aware that actions absolutely can be predicated by our beliefs and words? Obviously just saying something doesn't guarantee a person will do it, but what a chant like…

I'm replying to you instead of the OP and MissAnthrope because I A. don't want to give either of them the satisfaction of responding directly and B. you've managed to state the whole point of how beauty preferences are, at the very least, partially manufactured by society and are not static nor have they always been…

How can you say you love your body and then go on to call parts of it "gross" for not fitting arbitrary beauty standards? This guy is a troll who enjoys winding up feminists by acting like beauty is some static, statistical fact that exists or doesn't based on who he wants to have sex with. Don't give him the…

1. You don't get to define what's an "important" issue to discuss for other people. And FYI, Lindy quite succinctly put this into a relevant historical and cultural context about appropriation and racism. You don't have to care about that but many other people do. I personally care when a fellow white person with a…

You're dead right here. The issue with the "petite" thing is that it's always about how "cute" and tiny and difficult it is to find clothes small enough...forgetting that many people are petite and not thin. And while it is difficult to find clothes, it's not impossible. There are stores that cater to the petite, lots…