To be entirely honest, I'm really sick of people (especially other women) being judgy when you like "girly" things, or assuming that means you're "childish" or some other made up bs that has fuck all to do with you as a person and everything to do with deeply entrenched ideas of what women "should" be like. It's just…

That's because pinup art used to have a sense of humor and personality about it. A "cheekiness" if you will, that was pretty common and part of the appeal. So they're sexy, but also fun and even silly sometimes. If you look at pinups from, say, WWII, many were like this (though generally less curvy than Hilda) in…

My mom is 61 and a yoga instructor and she would lose her mind if she heard of someone A. forcing people to do poses they weren't ready for and B. body shaming. She teaches a lot of women her age, and seniors, some of whom in their 80's are more flexible than she is. I don't know where you are, but she's in NY and as…

Except for the ear piercing, those others are for birth defects that can harm a child. Children with cleft palates, for instance, get serious infections that kill them. So, they're not really comparable.

It's not just sexual invisibility she's talking about, though. My mom is 61, she was always considered pretty, often beautiful, but never "hot" or pursued constantly for her looks. She's smart, kind, and sweet. And while she's had a bit of an issue transitioning into aging, she's still really active, has gorgeous…

It's not a "mistake" to send unsolicited dick pics to random women. That's, at best, sexual harassment. He did that several times, to several women, who had contacted him about his policies. So. It goes beyond a mistake or some kind of private issue between bf and gf. So there was no exchange of trust.

Thankfully my husband likes me with or without makeup (he's also fine with my pink, white, or whatever hair because he gets that it's my body and I can do what I want with it), but I've seen the whole dudes being controlling about it thing with others and it's often been a red flag about other issues in the…

This right here is one of my main issues: it's taken as a given that Zimmerman believed his life was threatened...and yet isn't it also possible that Martin felt the same way? We don't get the benefit of his pov because he's dead. He wasn't carrying a deadly weapon whose express purpose is to kill. It's possible…

Every single thing you've written here is a big fat pile of nope. It is misogynist, it is used to insult and degrade women, and it is a pointless gatekeeping behavior that's obnoxious and stupid.

They both matter, though. Just having more films with female characters who are terrible and perpetuate bad female stereotypes won't help anything. The quality really matters. Why should we settle for just "more" female characters if they're bland, sexist, pointless, or otherwise terrible representations? What does…

Some movies have very specific plots that hinge on stories moving in a very set direction without digressing into conversations or interactions that don't involve the main narrative. So, while I certainly think it's more realistic to have more than one female character talking to each other about something other than…

Useful as I find the Bechdel test for discussion on gender in film, I'm okay with a movie not "passing" so long as it's A. well written B. makes sense that it doesn't C. the female characters are otherwise well realized. I mean, it's not a test that automatically indicates quality. Lots of films don't pass it that…

Well, it's a passion and a job, something that takes years of work and often uncertain and difficult times. It's easy to criticize people once they've reached a successful place to never be sick of the endless crap they can get for basically doing their job well. Do we get cranky at plumbers if they aren't thrilled…

This. No one is concluding that movies with men shouldn't be made because these 3 are terrible and performed badly, but if they starred women? That's precisely what happened after, say, Elektra and Catwoman. Those movies were terrible and that's why they did terribly, because sometimes audiences really do give a shit…

That's actually the point. These movies did badly because they're crappy movies and sometimes that matters to audiences. But if they starred women the Hollywood conclusion would be "movies with women don't make money". When movies with dudes fail it's because of quality, marketing, bad timing, whatever. When movies…

No, it's reality. The reason it's perpetuated is because people don't/won't unpack it or deal with it. The point of acknowledging it is so that something can be done about it. I personally think it's wrong, but I can't single-handedly shift our culture to stop defining gender so rigidly, or acknowledge that it's…

Like being shot for trying to attend school? Or being shot for teaching girls? Or being gang-raped and murdered on a bus? Or gang-raped at a party and having it photographed and filmed instead of reported? Being stoned to death for someone suspecting you've been adulterous? Being raped as a means of genocide, which is…

That would be true if anyone was actually blaming men for "everything" here. Patriarchy does not = men and the ENTIRE article explained this rather thoroughly. Turning your back on feminism just means you're turning your back on equality and deconstructing damaging gender ideas. For women AND men. Good job?

Well, by keeping men as a privileged group, obviously. That's like asking how does reinforcing white privilege help white people if if it means we have to find way of leveling the playing field, like affirmative action. One can benefit from a system while also harming oneself with it. It's not one or the other. And…

No, the responsibility is on patriarchy, which many of us participate in knowingly and unknowingly. The responsibility that individual men have is in recognizing their privilege within that system, even when it also creates problems for them when they don't conform. And the things that generally get men in "trouble"…