I actually started using henna in HS. But my hair is naturally all gray/white now and henna doesn't take to that well, it goes too orange which looks weird on me. But upshot, though: I can do pink, blue, red, whatever and it shows up REALLY bright without bleaching. And my field no one cares at all.

I dyed my hair so many shades of unnatural red in HS that, had this rule been in place, I would've been homeschooled. Which, considering my middle school and HS experiences, might have been better. FYI, my mom helped me dye it, too. Because it's -hair-. This idiotic obsession with trying to force teenagers to never…

Depends on the career, for one thing. Plenty of jobs have no issue with much more outrageous hair colors than red-brown. Sure, she may well run into dress codes in the job market. They don't tend to include dyeing your hair another, natural, color. Which this is. Which also doesn't violate the school's policy.

I think I said it is sexism too, though? Like, in both instances. It's just the reasoning behind it is somewhat different. Sexual assault, culturally, has serious stigma's attached no matter the gender, and I think all victims are shamed and blamed (the only exception being very young children), though -how- that…

It wouldn't be, if I'd said anything about being "jealous". I didn't. I said she sounded like she didn't like kids very much and that maybe it was a dealbreaker in this friendship because of a few factors, one of them being that she's not getting anything out of it. Sometimes friendships, for any number of reasons,…

Well, no, all I have is your post to go by, and it honestly read like you don't like kids. Which, as I said in my post, would actually be fine. Plenty of people don't and it doesn't make them terrible people.

Yep, I know. :}

Actually, I'm not sure that's the reason. It's not because people think women are more valuable than men, it's because they think they are "weaker" and so it is therefore "worse" they were killed because they are seen as helpless victims. That's why you get "women & children". They are seen as almost equally helpless…

". It's time we acknowledge that a woman's appearance can have a visceral impact on those around her without their consent. "

You know, I actually DO hate the bumbling-stupid-father trope, as much as I hate the shrill-harpy, too-smart-for-idiot-husband wife trope. Because they perpetuate awful gender stereotypes that do no one any favors. And I think they are part of our culture's general problem with gender roles/norms.

Obviously those activities aren't inherently gendered, but they are culturally and socially gendered. That's what feminism addresses. The entrenched, systemic, ways gender norms are used to limit peoples lives (men and women). For instance: that reaction you got from a friend about a potential daughter playing…

Yes, as individuals, but we still have to address the social/cultural constructs that limit people's lives and choices because of gender norms. So, on a base level, we are "just" people. But our society is imbalanced, with entrenched, systemic, automatic problems with oppression, which individuals perpetuate. Just…

To be honest, it sounds like maybe her having children is a dealbreaker for you. I mean, it sounds like children are not your thing, especially young children, and you're just getting resentful because being around young kids and moms is not something you're up for. And that's fine. But that may mean that this is…

Reading through some of these, I feel like the only person who has friends with children who are A. awesome parents B. awesome friends C. have awesome kids. Maybe part of it is that while I don't have kids myself, I do like children and have worked with them as a teacher and nanny at various times. So I don't have any…

He did, he has, and has been outspoken about this and other progressive issues for at least the last 10 years in his spoken word, shows, etc. He's also one of those people who, without any attempt to backhand it, admits to being an ass in his younger days and that he was wrong. I wouldn't like the guy otherwise, I'm…

It absolutely is. Any writer in comics knows how important it is for their artist to be able to convey emotions in the "static" medium of comics. They absolutely have to be able to get nuance, otherwise the stories won't work, resonate, or connect with readers. Saying Cloonan's work does that (and it does) is the…

That may be true of superhero comics "a business that employs almost entirely male artists" but comics is NOT all superhero books. Independent publishers, who are also part of the "business", employ lots of women. There are plenty of ways to discuss issues of who is telling and drawing comics without effectively…

I'm talking culturally, not individually. Culturally women who are seen as doing "man" things are generally considered too aggressive or sexually loose. It's sadly still a thing.

That would be because our society makes it pretty clear (still) that women should not be sexually aggressive lest they be judged unfavorably for it, generally more harshly than men are. Women who approach men are often regarded as "pushy" or worse "sluts". Not to mention the fact that we're expected to fend men off…

Actually, there's a serious hunger issue for those in poverty in the US. So it is a real problem and school is where a lot of children get the bulk of their calories. Also, FLOTUS's program is for HEALTHIER food with beneficial calories, not junk. She's a huge proponent of healthy eating and getting schools better,…