You know, I'm not sure about that. I mean, part of equality is recognizing our shared humanity. A pretty insidious form of sexism is putting women on pedestals and denying their flaws, so as to excuse also denying us rights. That was actually a tactic used to argue against suffrage, that women were "too good" to be…

Loooooooove this. I haven't seen the film so I'll reserve judgment on its feminism...but seriously, women as equal actually is about acknowledging our humanity, warts and all.

I'm 33 and my hair is fully silvery gray/white. Started when I was 19, though I had to wait for the streaks to grow in, so for years I just had two white streaks in the front while the rest was dark. It's like 85% white/gray now. When I dye it, I tend to do streaks of colors like pink or blue or violet. Sometimes I'll…

That's what I find most confusing, this weird, myopic reading of one amendment and then acting like it's some inviolate thing that must never be questioned. That's completely anti the point of the Constitution. We're not supposed to be mindless automatons that question nothing and ignore context. I mean, we can't even…

Ah, okay, I read some of your other comments and I think I know what the issue is: you believe I am judging other women who wear skirts, heels, or whatever as "girly" and bad and have mindlessly internalized sexism. I don't, actually. Because I also wear dresses and skirts and makeup and am, in many ways, very girly.…

Yes, actually, we have internalized pretty much everything. That's kind of how culture work, We start off blank slates and, over time, learn the context we live in. And I never said vagina's were a shield, or should be. Nor does it imply that they should grow up in a vacuum, because obviously that's impossible unless…

::sigh:: And men don't need to take any responsibility in not, say, yelling stuff at them? Or groping them? Looking is not the issue, acting like men can't control themselves is.

I absolutely did. His last sentence in particular is endemic of continuing to blame women for something that it is entirely up to men to control.

You're honestly not doing the argument for "rational gun owners" any favors by assuming Penny was talking about them when she said "I hate people". She could have, you know, been talking about the kind of awful people who murder children. Or who heckle a grieving parent.

Uhm, no. It was a legislative hearing where people give testimony. They get their time, then the other folks get theirs. It is absolutely wrong that several people interrupted him. It wasn't a question posed to the crowd, that's not how that works. He got his time, then they get theirs. Please don't defend people for…

Kerry Washington is just stunning. I cannot get over how completely gorgeous she is.

It depends. Are you actually annoyed at the individual, who may not be aware of all the cultural influences they've internalized...or the culture that instills and perpetuates them? Because we all adhere to some cultural and social norms, all the time, without always being aware of them. It doesn't make them not…

For the love of...no. Please stop acting like women aren't constantly expected to police their bodies because apparently men are incapable, according to you, of not at least "saying something crass" if they find her attractive. We are well aware that our simple presence can apparently "make" some men into jackasses…

I so wish that didn't sound eerily close to arguments I've actually read here...

It's been crazy, right? I mean, I know part of it is the commenting system that just lets any old crap through...but there's been a really weird uptick in not just trolls, but people who are like "whatever, it's not racism/sexism/victim blaming because I have feelings and opinions, man". I know the internet is often…

Seriously, thank you. I can't stomach some of these other comments. How this is not clearly wrong to some people is beyond me.

I seriously do not get wtf happened to the commenting community here in the past 6 months or so. Between a lot of "whatever, choose our own choice" dismissals, racism, victim-blaming, and such I don't know why I bother.

This. It's racist and incredibly wrong.

Okay, so the point of this article is that the cultural idea that your wedding day will be THE day of your entire life, and should be some enormous, fairytale event, is problematic because it's gendered. I have no idea why so many commenters are taking it so personally, but if you're not spending all your spare time…

You aren't. I didn't, ever. No one in my family ever had big weddings so I wan't raised with stories about them. My mom also felt the whole pressure for girls to feel like marriage is THE defining moment was pretty gross. When I did get married it was -tiny-. 20 people. Everyone had a great time, it was only the…