You square the two ideas, by understanding that “believe women” does not equal “police should never investigate”. It means don’t make assumptions if someone discloses to you that they were assaulted.

Uh... No it’s really not? Like I don’t understand why this appears to be such a difficult concept for these idiots, but if you want to avoid being accused of rape, you can just like... not rape anyone. Or something. I know, novel idea. If you adhere to that very simple line of thought, your chances of being accused of…

Actually, he means rapists.

It’s not hard to be a man now, all you have to do is NOT SEXUALLY ASSAULT PEOPLE.

Did you ever consider that maybe she is a “total train wreck” because of trauma she has suffered? She also is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse by her father starting at age 6. Not sure if you know that. As a fellow CSA survivor (mine started at about age 4) I take issue with the fact that because someone has…

I find bigger escape rooms have a “too many cooks” problem. You get ten people trying to shout over each other, and it’s awful, and it becomes more of a cat-herding problem than a puzzle. Smaller ones actually mean each person feels valuable and heard.

The Lunchable was invented in Wisconsin so it must be all those Oscar Mayer employees who lost there jobs when the original Oscar Mayer plant was closed doing all the hating. 

What’s worse is that very likely she thought she was protecting her daughter by telling her that.

wow, there are a lot of turds writing paragraphs. makes me wonder what they stand to lose if people actually took rape accusations seriously

I just want to add that the fear she had was paralyzing, seeing the person you love afraid that she is dying or has cancer and not being able to do anything or even assure her that she was wrong and isn’t dying is one of the worst things I’ve ever experienced.

My fiance was recently in the hospital a number of times and all the doctors just blew her off. They didn’t look at her medications, we had to really complain to actually get them to do any tests, and even though she was throwing up they wanted to put a camera up her ass for some reason to look at her colon (which she…

First of all: can Louis C.K. be swallowed by a sink hole please.

You’re... not at all familiar with the McElroys, are you?

The older I get, the more the term hysterical provokes a cold, decidedly unhysterical, fury.

What they tell *me* about how to prevent rape is that we need, so much more than we are, to be teaching 'enthusiastic consent is the only yes' instead of 'no means no'. We need to be teaching people that there's nothing weird or stupid about clarifying intent with a partner verbally. Much light was made of 'consent…

Very interesting piece. I don't think the point is for potential victims to learn ways to avoid rape, but rather for potential rapists to learn how the ways in which they think about sex are wrong. Unfortunately, Reddit is not really a great forum for it.

How exactly is a woman supposed to lock up her vagina? If you don't want someone to steal your bike, you lock it to something, otherwise you were kind of asking for someone to steal it. But it's a lot more complicated with rape, because women are always "asking for it" in one way or another- by wearing the wrong…

OHHH so sorry! My mistake. I didn't realize a woman and her "sexual integrity" were two different things! Give it up.

Oh god, I'm soooo sick of the "replace rape with theft" argument. Rape and theft aren't analogous at all. "Leaving a bicycle out without a chain and lock" is NOT the same as "a woman jumping naked with a man into bed." By equating a woman — a PERSON — with a bike, you're saying she's an object that needs to be…