Hello, I am the one who sent the letter. My wife and I thank everyone for your comments and discussions regarding this difficult topic.

Thank you so much for this. I can’t begin to fathom what your family must be going through lately, but I genuinely believe that no other course of action you could have taken would have produced preferable long-term outcomes, and I wish you all peace and healing. Your story of doing the difficult but correct thing is…

My mom tried to do the right things when I was raped (for the third time - it’s super complicated) at age eight or nine in the 1980's. I remember answering the very nice police detective’s questions. I remember all the horrified reactions from him (wincing) and Mama (shocked gasps and crying). I remember telling them…

This kind of familial abuse happens more often than people can imagine. It happened in my family.

Absolutely. I was very young when I finally told my mother about the serious sexual assault I experienced by someone close to the family. She was decisive and relentless—through reporting to the police, all the interviews and the court hearings and therapy, through my crippling fear and other people’s judgement. I…

My uncle victimized most of the boys in my family at one time or another..... some of us worse than others..... and the unforgivable truth is that all the adults knew, on some level. The most guilty was my grandmother, who he lived with. She 100% knew and did NOTHING to keep us from being left alone with him. Some of…

My wife was abused as a child by a family member babysitting her when she was around five. Her parents knew and ignored it and hoped she was young enough to forget and it wouldn’t impact her. They even let that family member babysit again. And he abused her again.

Both of my parents raised me to believe a child, even if it seems unlikely. So when a young family member said something concerning about my dad, we listened and we took action. The investigation seemed endless, and I was tied up in knots because I just couldn’t believe my dad would ever do anything like that. He was…

As someone (male) who was molested from the age of ~10 to ~13, thank you for writing this. It’s next to impossible for children to know that what’s happening isn’t right, especially when it comes from an authority figure, and I’m very glad you didn’t shrug it off.

A friend of ours came from an abusive household. She is also, like me, an experienced attorney. Her son is the same age as our son (both in elementary school) and they are friends. They attend the same camps. The night she told us that a neighbor, an older boy, showed her son how to masturbate, I was appalled. Then…

Those jawlines, lips, and noses. They were so vain they were dating themselves. My last Ex is engaged to a girl who could be his sister, they look so much alike.

Civilian detainees on military bases. Of course, only for refugees and not citizens. Yet.

You are a gift! Your job is needlessly difficult and I thank everyone who helps the little guy trying to live a better life! 

I am doubly heartened by the fact that people called BS on the executive order fucking immediately. I think people are starting to understand that fascism is a slow creep and it must be excised at its source, where it is not always so obvious nor is it immediately horrific. It starts with far more subtlety and we need…

No, she Betty

Preemptively posting a giant FUCK YOU to anyone who criticizes this action.

This. Every day. For every single one of them.

THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME.

by making her die of knee surgery