It was 3 years ago, and she didn’t bring the suit up first. He sued her (she complained to his radio station) and she counter sued. After 3 years, there’s distance. You can make jokes. Also, a lot of people make jokes in uncomfortable situations.

When I was dragged under a bridge and assaulted, I constantly was cracking jokes to the police as they took the report. It was the only way I could survive at that moment. So in other words, fuck you.

elaborate. What’s the right level of ‘traumatized’ look and sound like, or what’s the secret sign she failed to give that would indicate that her claims have merit? I don’t read her suing on the basis of trauma, I read her countersuing some entitled ass who is CLAIMING that he lost his job because of her. What does…

Could people please flag that hautsch troll? His comments have really crossed the line. Thanks.

I think that the joke highlights how people — and women in particular — are supposed to respond to trauma, assault, and invasion of their personal space. Being angry or upset isn’t appealing or welcome. I see similar things expected of people who have chronic illnesses or pain.

If he did that to Taylor Fucking Swift, he’s done it to many other women who were easier targets with less resources. I hope that T wins her case, both for herself and for whoever else he has assaulted.

Swift didn’t “claim” to be “traumatized”. She didn’t used that word at all. She described being very upset three years ago. It’s gross that you’re making stuff up and attributing it to a sexual assault victim just to call her a liar. Sexual assault is still a crime when the victim is able to make jokes three years…

Yes, being assaulted and traumatized means she no longer laughs, smiles, finds things amusing, takes joy in the world. She is required to spend 68% of her time crying and the rest of it walking in the rain. Them’s the rules.

Do you always look for the smallest excuse to discount a woman’s experience and place doubt on their testimony?

Welp, since someone already brought you out of the greys, I’m curious. What SHOULD a traumatized person act like? Please, tell me, I want to take notes so that I can be sure to perform trauma sufficiently should I ever be in a similar situation. You know, in case a jury is full of people like you.

People make jokes at funerals. It doesn’t mean they’re not hurting.

As someone who worked in the music biz, I can attest that a large number of DJ’s should be locked away in an underground prison.

No matter how anyone feels about her, that is so awful and I hope she coped and recovered from the events smoothly :(

Came here to ask this same question. As an adult I still haven’t learned how to disengage gracefully from the expected hugging, and get anxious enough about the expectation of hugs that I just give in and feel uncomfortable about the whole thing. I’d love ideas on how to establish hug boundaries without hurting…

But what do you do if someone goes in for the hug first? I am curious how you all handle this situation. As someone who does not particularly like to hug anyone but very close friends/family, I run into this situation quite often. Sticking out a hand for a hand shake seems so cold...I dunno, I normally accept the hug…

We’re overlooking a major part of this story: Ryan Lochte knocked up a poor animal that gave birth dog/human hybrid. I mean, why else call him his “son?”

(Note: People who call dogs their “son” or “daughter” are insufferable. As someone who grew up with, and has had dogs the majority of my life, I’ve never given the…

We can’t agree on his age, but can we all agree that Carter is a very, very good dog?

I don’t want to make a blanket statement about all surfer guys, but the ones I meet in my area make me root for the sharks.

You must have left early. Board Member 3 adjourned with “Those guys are fags”

When government provides the protections that it is empowered to give. (Not talking to you North Carolina.)