Nope. You know what women are tired of? Men telling us How Things Are. So, fuck off.

Or maybe commercially attractive 20 somethings offer greater societal validation.

I agree with that definition, but I don't see why it's so noble. In that definition, it's to the benefit of the victim to forgive (to relinquish hatred or resentment). I don't think it's a nobler or braver thing than continuing to hate the attacker. Both are acceptable, in my morality.

good comment. I feel similarly. Having grown up in an intense version of Christianity, I've always been confused by this. I've chosen to see it as something that is meant to have everything to do with the victim's healing and zero to do with the perpetrator. In my mind/definition it's a way of letting go of resentment…

I applaud her courage and strength. But it's important to note that she didn't have to forgive him to be a good person. Forgiveness doesn't make anyone a better person, morally, than people who don't forgive — and if you're in a position like this, you should make whatever choice is right for you and your own recovery.

The perspective of women who are involuntarily celibate is one I don't think I've ever seen represented anywhere.

Also, I don't necessarily disagree that women in aggregate want to have sex less frequently than men do but there are many, many complicating factors here that no scientific study could possibly account for: the ancient, pervasive stigma surrounding female sexuality, obviously but also the fact that women are much…

As a married guy of 45, who's wife just turned 40 - we've been together for 20 years, I can tell you that under no circumstances is my ideal partner today in her 20s. I don't think I could actually stand it. The lack of shared experience and a common frame of reference, and some of the cultural differences would…

I can see this being used to make the argument that women are the ones with the real power. But if real power was sexual power then men would have given up their powerful, esteemed positions a long time ago (especially during WWII when women took over male jobs. Why not tell the women to stay in those jobs while men…

women are penalized heavily for showing sexual interest, especially beyond what's considered an acceptable amount. They are also in much more danger sexually and physically if they go pick up guys left and right. So please consider how much women consciously and unconsciously restrain themselves in their sexual…

I call bullshit on the fertility rationale. If men actually are more attracted to women in their 20's, it's probably because babies are less likely to be on the cards anytime soon than with women in their 30's (huge generalisation I know but made from listening to my 30 something male friends who think their female …

Totally agree. Also, many men seem to miss the point that they also have the same power. If a woman wants to have sex with a man, and the man doesn't want to, then the woman doesn't get the sex.

Between the 20-something women study and 'visual creatures' thing, it seems like we're supposed to infer men are incapable of being intellectual stimulated by a woman or being turned on by emotional connections. I think if women were to be honest with themselves then yes, 20-something year old men in their physical…

Your capitalism-science is not gross at all; don't believe what the others tell you.

You also have the quandry of how are people qualifying attraction when they ask this question. Are men and women answering the question in the same way and arriving at different answers or are men and women answering differently based on socialization and interpretation of the question.

You think men have a perspective "not often seen" in society?! And that this perspective needs to be....on this site for......women?!

Hooray! Princeton Mom moved to Finland. I hope the weather makes her absolutely miserable.

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Oh Christ here we go again. Hot women in their 20's control the dating market. Women's heterosexual activity is ALSO constrained by male choice. I cannot just order up whatever man I want. Men who complain about how tough it is to find a woman only want "9s or 10s" under 30. Boo hoo if men can't compete with other men…

This just sounds like women have more realistic preferences for their partners' ages. There's reallllly not a ton of 20-something women falling all over themselves to date 50 year old men- most people end up with someone close to their age.