YES to all of this. Would having more egalitarian relationships help? Yes. Would involving more grandparents, siblings, and extended family in the care of children help? Yes. But at the core of it, we still have a tax system that favors breadwinner-homemaker couples, we still have an idealized worker (and career path)…

My ideal (lady) homosexual lobby would have a bar, some attractive-yet-comfortable couches, and a play area for our puppies. The cat lesbians could have their own lobby.

Mark started it (the header picture is from the original tumblr, Men Taking Up Too Much Space on the Train); Saving Room for Cats is the delightfully cat-focused offshoot (which actually has fewer crotch shots because we've now got cats photoshopped in front of them).

But what will happen to all the men Saving Room for Cats? http://savingroomforcats.tumblr.com/

I'm not a legal scholar, but since people have been saying that SCOTUS is likely to hear the case because there have been conflicting rulings, it suggests that they would rule in order to establish a consistent law of the land. Which means yes, bringing this to the Supreme Court could mean having a nationwide ruling…

Thank you, Judge Daughtrey. As someone who cares about getting consistent (pro-gay marriage) laws across the country, I realize that this ruling can help us get there. As an actual gay married person with actual concrete plans to have children while living in one of these states, I'm deeply pissed off. My partner…

I agree that he (and other mpreg folks) may very well be romanticizing an experience they haven't had, focusing on the positives while ignoring the many downsides of pregnancy (employment discrimination, physical discomfort, cost, etc.). Certainly, as a woman who could at least theoretically get pregnant, my feelings…

I agree the wording seems problematic, but I read it as expressing a sentiment about whether or not some ability is taken for granted—or even seen as an inconvenience—by some, while being desperately craved by others. It doesn't necessarily have to be about judging others (say, for having abortions or taking birth…

Be that person—I completely agree. Maybe this is about freaking out that his kid might not be safe... but the way he went about it also smacks of "MY daughter won't be dating ANY BOYS until she's 18...or married." Talking to kids about the importance of being honest, and about online safety? Good parenting. Publicly…

Glad to see the students are raising a stink about this—that's the Berkeley I know and love. If the invitation isn't rescinded, though, at least it's only for December graduation. Most people graduate in the spring, and even those who finish in December often prefer to walk in commencement exercises in the spring...

I read articles like this and all I come away with is an appreciation for the biodiversity of the human species. Me, I wash my hair pretty much every day, and certainly every time I work out; it's fine and straight and full of bangs that get stringy if I don't wash them often. Clearly, that's not true for everyone—how…

While I'm happy any time I see an effort being made to create more gender parity in moviemaking and entertainment, I kind of agree with you—I worry that Warner Bros. will want a pat on the back for hiring one woman to direct the female superhero movie that we've all been begging for, and then go back to making male…

There's a certain kind of terrible logic to this. CEOs' opinions on the Confederate Flag matter, because they (and their companies) are who donate to politicians' campaigns and get people like Nikki Haley elected. You know whose opinions don't matter? People of color—because they're going to try to Voter ID and…

Fellow 32-year-old (early 1982) here. Yep - we're on the cusp. Given how people made at least a little bit of a fuss about us as teens (we were the Class of 2000!), I've always been kind of disappointed that we didn't merit our own generation name.

This...sounds a little bit familiar. I spent the bulk of my 20s in graduate school, wearing wrinkle-resistant knits and jeans, and as an apartment-dweller, I had zero space to devote to things like a sewing machine, an ironing board, etc. Now that I finally have a budget to buy nicer clothing, I'm slowly learning how…

The fitness spike among women correlates with another trend piece by the New York Times that points to America's obsession with extreme fitness. Everyone is turning into a raging bodybuilder...

On the campus where I teach, students are talking about Ebola the way (straight) people in the early 80s talked about AIDS: as something vaguely fearful, but also something to joke about, because it can only happen to other people, not people like them. Certainly not something to care about, because most of the people…

Maybe one individual's choice doesn't harm other people, but if everyone makes the same "choice," then it becomes a lot harder for people to choose differently. That's the harm we're talking about here. That doesn't mean I can pretend to know Amal Clooney's reasons for choosing to take her husband's last…

As I see it, being critical of something isn't the same as shaming—or at least, it shouldn't be. None of us knows Amal Clooney's reasons for changing her name. Some women do it because of internalized patriarchy; some women do it because they like the new name better; some do it because they've experienced abuse or…

I think it reinforces the fact that women should be able to do whatever they want without being judged for it.