I hate to generalize, but I’m going to. I suspect that, like most selfish abusers, he cares nothing for the lives of others, but cares a great deal about his own life and potential suffering. His pain, and only his pain, is real to him. The suicide was probably an act meant to illicit sympathy IMHO.

It’s happened far too many times. It’s a phenomena I fail to comprehend. Who looks at a convicted serial killer, rapist, wife-murderer, etc., and says “Gee, that man looks like marriage material to me, girl!”

Recall it is, then.

I first read about this story ten years ago and it has haunted me ever since. Not one person called the police. Not one. I just can’t fathom that.

Jesus Christ. This is so awful. “Don’t look too close, everything will be alright” is apparently the fucking default mindset when women are being hurt.

I call that a clutch 11. It’s like a catch 22 except it’s pink, smaller, half as effective, and twice the price.

Beaten and kidnapped by one man (her husband) only to be sentenced to death by another (the judge).

Fear/distrust men because of rampant violence and we’re bitter, misandrist feminazis. Be assaulted and we’re stupid for not being more careful/trusting a protective order instead of getting a gun/etc.

Calling Nurse Jackie.

Add me to the list. I like to call myself an equal opportunity avoider. White, brown or black, young or old, if a man looks like he could still outrun me, and I’m alone, I’m crossing the street.

At the very least no one countered toxic masculinity. For it to get to this level they likely bolstered concepts of female inferiority. That in and of itself is doing something. Whatever happened to him doesn’t have to be a sympathy inducing sob-story. But no one is born hating women.

Agreed. Even if he thought it was for real, it probably wasn’t. As evidenced by his poor aim.

I like being a woman. I’ve never regretted my gender. I’m very tired, however, of us being treated like we’re inferior because we’re women.

Call me cynical, but I doubt the sincerity of his suicide attempt.

Exactly. Torture and kidnapping are, apparently, just new line items on the “things you shouldn’t do to women unless they’re married to you, then it’s fine, because vows and blah blah blah” list.

Word. I hear you completely. Personally I only let a select few into my life. My husband, who I trust with anything, a few coworkers who are legally bound to keep it cool, and my dad who would protect me at any cost while still respecting my wishes. The rest of malekind can fuck off. Since my rate of experiencing…

Same. It is so fucking exhausting.

I knew that ‘marital rape’ has historically been treated as ‘not-really-rape’, and I knew that ‘domestic violence’ has historically been treated as ‘not-really-violence-and-none-of-our-business’.... but I did NOT know that torture was similarly defanged by matrimony.

And the fact she survived so much only to has this happen... No words

I'm starting to question why we even bother speaking to men. Jesus Christ that poor woman. How many people must have failed her, and how terrified she must have been. My heart aches.