If you don't see the struggle between wanting to be strong, dominant, and in control (traits typically assigned to men) while also wanting to enjoy being a woman (someone who is not strong and dominant, per patriarchal standards) then you're gonna have a bad time.

First, the issue is not the leggings, it's your male student body being excused of their behavior. And your insistence on this idea that women can "prevent" themselves from being a victim.

This really isn't a legal issue, but every time I see a development on this story I keep asking myslef: who treats people like this?!? Who lacks this kind of foresight? Her boss didn't think to tell her about the 3 day waiting period beforehand? This wasn't in employee orientation? Why would you make it such a hassle…

*Horvath

I agree with you on crying in the workplace: true people process things differently, but, and this really is just my opinion, it would take an extreme circumstance for me to understand tears in front of colleagues/while on the clock. Honestly, this case is one of them. Her boss was being completely unprofessional and…

I really wish I could have seen OP's face when they read this.

I don't understand how some people are saying this is just another facet of colonialism. There are people being hurt from this practice, it is damaging them and the economy they live in, and it doesn't seem like something the women following the practice enjoy it. The basis of the practice is fear; I can only imagine…

You made my infuriating tour of the comment section worth it.

Seriously, we need more students like these. When people say "Kids are our future." this is what they're talking about. Here there is a chance to have some positive change in the world, and it's heart breaking to see this opportunity treated this way.

Honestly, I would still do they cake but not go to the wedding. I feel like the MS diagnosis has something to do with him not being invited and your friend is being particularly rude. Also, I get needing to budget, but it sounds like she's using you and her BF's friends to fulfill her vision of what a wedding should…

I may be wrong but I think Pauline was more upset with the fact there wasn't, and isn't as far as we know, a policy to handle this, and that customer care refused to explain how employees are trained to handle this sort of situation. Given some of the other comments here, it apparently happens more frequently than…

It's true that even when we see the possibility for change, we must be patient to make sure it sticks.

aovma is just a huge troll. You seem like a decent person and aovma doesn't deserve your time.

I think some commentors took your post as one by an apologist. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe your points are:

There is a lot that is wrong with how this case was handled, but am I the only one who is impressed that Nunlee is actually being CHARGED with something instead of just suspended/fired? I was honestly expecting another "cop gets away with doing whatever he wants" story.

I agree with just about everything you said! I think I've said in other threads it is too early to tell if she is in an abusive relationship, but talking about it and being aware of the signs is what matters.

I don't think you quite grasp what domestic violence is. Rihanna was rich and could leave anytime. Whitney was famous, too, and she probably had connections to help her leave her situation. DV isn't about money or status (although later in the process money does play an important role in the situation), it's about…

Good to know this is still a thing.