See, this is my problem with this site and its commitment to 3rd wave choosing-my-choice feminism. I’m not talking about you or any other commenter as a consumer of porn; that’s your business and you can make your own decisions TYVM etc. But always, ALWAYS there is someone here to remind you that THE LADIES LOVE PORN…

You can cry “consenting adults!” all you want, but the kind of dudes who actually want to act out domination and forced penetration are not gonna be the kind to, shall we say, “leave it all on the field.” Nobody can compartmentalize as well as they think they can.

And a lot of the shit that apparently went down happened at Kink, according to Ashley Fires. Was nobody aware of it or did they just choose to ignore it until it blew up?

Jeez we spend all this energy and time promoting porn stars as our new idols and they let us down! Who will we look to next for guidance on culture, feminism and radical politics? (NB: Answer has to be in the form of a porn star)

He’s a man, and he’s a man tasked with illustrating male fantasies for men. Are you not surprised?

I don’t think porn is empowering at all. It’s mysoginistic and gross. I’m not surprised that some porn “actors” will demean someone who has been raped. Those women are only contributing to rape culture. They are horrible people. So - fuck them.

I know, I think she's hilarious. But would it kill her to wash her hair?

Why does a newborn baby need a Twitter account? I'm 32 and I don't even have a Twitter account.

No, there’s pretty much something wrong with that. If I were fantasizing about murdering people, though not actually murdering people, that would be a very clear sign that I needed help, and possibly that other people needed protection from me.

er...not wanting to be raped, or not fantasizing about rape, is sex-negative? I don’t think so.

Yeah...I think actually not that many women have rape fantasies, though there’s a persistent wishfulness about that in certain quarters.

OK well don’t be surprised when the guy who fantasizes about raping crosses a boundary in real life.

Nope. Some kinks should be shamed. Pedophilia? Animal crushing?

we can’t just blithely accept the idea that all women have come to BDSM and rape fantasies in healthy, non-damaging ways

yes, but you also must acknowledge that lots of rapists fantasise about rape and enjoy rape-simulation porn before moving on to the real thing. it’s been studied. ted bundy liked that kind of porn, and look where he ended up. i’m not saying every guy that is into that stuff is going to move on to actual rape when…

Having a problem with porn that exists to satisfy men’s rape fantasies doesn’t make you sex negative, any more than you being okay with it makes you the enlightened feminist scholar you think it does.

except that many men convicted of serial rape when surveyed admit that they enjoy rape-simulation porn. there is definitely a connection between guys that consume rape simulation porn and actual rapists. i’m not saying every guy who likes rape porn is a rapist—but some of them definitely are.

As a former porn producer (who never explored simulated rape, as that can easily be ruled as obscenity by the community — plus, I stuck to mostly vanilla, anyway), I can tell you that most models do not have much leeway in which scenes they accept, lest they be labeled a flake.

Uh huh. And what about the dudes who jerk off to rape simulating porn? Are they sex positive feminists too?

That was a big part of why I dropped out of the BDSM “community” a long time ago. Because too many people were ok with letting non-consensual shit happen in supposedly safe play spaces. If I questioned some of the activities, the organizer’s response more often than not was “Oh, that’s just their scene. They’re fine.”…