Vietnam would be great (assuming I was willing/able to leave), but I can’t go there, Thailand, Cambodia, UAE, and Singapore with my medications. Even flying through those countries risks arrest for opioid ‘smuggling.’ I have a friend who HAS New Zealand citizenship and can’t go back because his spouse’s medication is…

I’m in the conversion process, so they are my best hope....though I will have to hope they accept a Reform conversion, because I don’t think there’s time to start over :-/

FUCK. ME.

SOLD!

That’s very, very good to know!

The truth is that I can’t leave. I’m disabled and I need to be close to my doctors. I don’t have the option. The vast, vast majority of countries (including Canada, most of Europe, Australia, New Zealand, etc.) don’t allow the disabled to immigrate :-/

Mr. BallofStress can likely go to Ireland, his mother is a dual citizen. My best friend is marrying a German and they’ve agreed to adopt Lil BallofStress if it comes to that. Cash and passports at the ready.

So, passports at the ready, yes?

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I am so g-ddamn fucking terrified right now that if I had eaten dinner yet, I would be puking it up. I cannot fucking even with this shit...

I’m sure the ones you know are good people, but it’s a Catholic fraternity for all intents and purposes, so unbiased on the issue of abortion it is not.

Knights of Columbus are HIGHLY biased. Our ‘head anti’ at the clinic where I escort is a KofC leader and they are always marching in the local parades against abortion.

I’m sick of the ‘First Amendment’ justification. Yes, it protects political speech, but that doesn’t mean things like this need to be given such a platform.

The updated slogan should be “Don’t let the bros grind you down”...

True, but just be aware that your ‘secondary’ partners might not be as ok with it as they want you to think they are, or there may be some unspoken resentment. It’s easy to think everything is fine when you are happy with everything, but that may not be how everyone truly feels and if that’s the case, it typically…

A) You’d be amazed at how many women are the driving force in opening a relationship (and generally tend to be less pressuring about it than men) and B) how many men REALLY enjoy the ‘It wife’s aspect! It’s not talked about in ‘vanilla’ circles because when it is it’s framed as ‘cuckolding’ and there’s such an element…

Exactly. You get into primary and secondary and “rules about what is shared with which level of partner” and it WILL NOT END WELL.

A shared Google calendar for all parties involved is a must! And lots and lots and LOTS of talking! And then more talking.

That’s kind of what I meant, the person who made the original comment seemed to imply that they wanted an A+B+C=everyone happy in a closed triad. In my experience, that is unicorn-level rare.

I’m sure it can and does work for many people, I just read the initial comment as three people who are all equally attracted to and committed to each other. My personal experience has been that situations with three people are usually Vees (Person A is with Person B and Person B is with Person C, but Person A and…

If you find that, PLEASE let me know. Though I will say, in my decade-plus of poly, it’s WAY, WAY more common for a woman to have two male partners than vis versa.