Unfortunately, in a lot of cases, you’re probably right.

Whereas the non-selfish response is to find out what they like and try to make that really well.

I think that’s very often what’s going on. They’re so self-centered that they don’t realize turn-ons aren’t universal.

This is assuming she hadn’t said that already, which I don’t think is a safe assumption, in this case. He did say he’d been asking her out for years.

Exactly! If we give a soft “no”, it’s because we’ve been socialized to do so, for exactly the reasons you state. Not being able to accept an answer you don’t like is the problem, here.

It depends on the response you get the first time. If it’s absolutely NO, then I wouldn’t go for a second, but if it’s unclear, maybe try again. Once. After that, it’s clear you’re getting a “soft no” to spare your feelings and it’s time to move on.

He did say he’d been asking her out for years, so I’d say you’re probably right.

Agreed!

Well, to be fair, it WAS his idea to come back instead of to just keep going across the salt, so that part of their journey was more about him than her initial mission. But I saw the exchange there as her conveying her understanding of why he wanted to fade into the crowd and not be involved/get the credit. And I…

It's definitely true. MANY women don't have orgasms with men. In my marriage, the only ones I ever had were ones I caused myself, either with a vibrator or being on top—if I didn't do either of those things, no orgasm for me. And, unfortunately, that's not uncommon :(

Actually, I didn't get the impression at all that things were platonic with Rose and #9. It seemed to me like he was starting to fall for her despite himself, because she was bringing out more of his humanity.

Excellent comment. I think you summed up David Tennant very well, and the reason why—though I largely agree with this article—the Tenth Doctor is my favorite. I liked how, even in his calmer moments, there was something barely-contained and slightly off-kilter about him.

I came here to say something similar.

And, anyway, the girl has *already* addressed it with him—repeatedly! That's the point, here. It's been addressed, and he isn't listening.

No, John Lovitz is very much alive. But they put him in the "in memoriam" reel in the SNL anniversary show as a joke, so they could go to his "What the fuck? I'm right here!" face in the audience.

I agree with you that pansexual and bisexual are not the same thing. I identify as the latter because I have historically been attracted to cisgender people. Some of that may be a function of the fact that I'm probably about a two on the Kinsey scale, and some of it may be my inexperience. It's hard to say. I also…

Yeah, I was thinking about that, too, especially since she added in her first comment here the context of her male friends having made some comments that surprised and disturbed her. She certainly could have worded it better, but I think she just wanted to make sure they weren't staring and making everybody…

Same as Sarahlou. I don't sweat much and I don't have oily skin, so, many days, a damp cloth does fine for me. But I've been living in this body for enough years that I am able to base my habits on how I know it behaves.

She very nearly had a decent point, but then she veered way off to the side into some blanket-statement bullshit. I do think obsessing over showers and excessive concern over bodily functions, smells, body hair, and hygiene (or perceived hygiene) is a very American thing that isn't limited to any one ethnicity.

Wow. What a lovely girl your daughter is, and what a great smile! The picture on the left is perfect :)