I was wondering the same thing, because that's an amazing pun.

I think you have a good point. And the vaccine thing was something she could cling to as a concrete reason. I can see why that would be hard to let go of.

What the hell does that even mean?

I knew a girl like that in school. People were "nice" to her—I don't remember anyone being outright mean, though it may have happened when I wasn't around—so she thought they were her friends, but the rest of us could pick up on their mocking, condescending tone. Which was the point, of course.

I'm also an atheist, so... #notallatheists, I guess :P

I agree.

Gross. I'm glad I missed that.

Absolutely. Pretty much everything he said came across as really narcissistic, passive-aggressive, whiny, and entitled.

The fact that he says he understands she doesn't want to fuck him does suggest they'd already made an agreement that quite clearly did NOT include sex.

Never mind that she has every right to refuse hugging and kissing, and that wanting to do so most certainly IS an expectation. Also, he didn't actually say—explicitly or otherwise—that he didn't want to fuck her, just that he understands that SHE doesn't want to fuck HIM. This suggests he must have tried before…

That bugged me, too. Of all the self-congratulatory, entitled bullshit...

I agree. And her responses to him looked very well-reasoned and clear, and are probably the sort of thing I'd do in that kind of situation.

Given that he wrote an essay about her, it seems to me like she's trying to give her side of the story.

That reminded me I have chocolate chip cookies in the kitchen.

It doesn't bother me, either. I'm also having trouble understanding why people are so confused by it. He's saying this particular incident is water under the bridge, but that he has a problem with the fact that racism in general exists.

I don't have the same level of investment as you—I like her all right, but I'm not a particular fan—but I also hope it isn't true. They're so cute together.

There's an aggressiveness to ogling that isn't present with just looking, which is why I make the distinction.

Totally understandable! I think that whole 9-14 age range can go either way, responsibility-wise.

In general, I agree, but I think there's a distinct difference between looking at women and ogling them. Part of maturity is learning how to do the former rather than the latter. And, for the love of God, keep your observations on her body to yourself unless she asks!

Me, too. I would PAY to see that.