The latter is rated FS for fucking sinister ;-)

I don't think your point one and point two have to be mutually exclusive. If you feel comfortable, maybe there's less desire to self-sabotage?

"Everyone has been in Tom’s situation, imagining idealized circumstances and then helplessly watching as they fail to take shape; in your mind, you inevitably ascribe thoughts and actions to other people that bear little or no relation to what those people might actually say or do."

A lot of Labour voters (and a lot at the other end of the wealth spectrum) have concerns with Corbyn. He can't do anything if he can't get elected and he's still behind May in the polls by double digits. Now polls have been wrong recently for sure, but those races were close and it could be chalked up to margin of…

Changing species to make a relationship work is not ideal ;-) I was 5 in 1990 and I remember that I didn't really like it except for Sebastien and wishing I had bright red hair ;-)

The AVC reposted the article yesterday. Which makes me :-( because all these Trump related clickbait articles should surely mean they can afford new content!

That's a nice idea for those who like to garden :-)

Fair enough but Pence seems utterly vile as well. Although, is Pence at least sceptical of Bannon?

It just seems plausible right now that the Dems and Repubs might end up working together to get rid of Trump and then the Repubs will stop playing by Queensbury rules. But all this may just be overly optimistic thinking on my part because I want Trump gone because he's desperately unqualified to be President by virtue…

Clearly most Lit grads didn't read that one ;-)

I was 19 and in uni studying hard for my Eng Lit degree so I would be super-employable ;-p

If you don't want to be a creep, don't persist when someone isn't interested and tells you that. It's that simple.

It really, really doesn't. "Creepy" people persistently ignore body language and verbal cues and keep going for whatever reason. And the extra dimension of creepy comes when they try and blame the person they are bugging for why they are acting that way.

"I don't believe it's ever right to call a human being creepy, including when you're not into them—"

This is where people (read women) can't do right for doing wrong. If you forcefully reject someone who makes unwanted advances then you are being cruel. If you don't, then they get to say you gave "mixed messages" or take your politeness for playing hard to get.

You can't be in love with someone you don't know though. If you see a pretty face and think you are in love you are just projecting a load of qualities you want onto a pretty face.

In real life, someone singing to you apropos of nothing is just so, so weird and offputting. Please tell me she didn't work there?

Chief amongst them is the way they reinforce the idea that single people are somehow incomplete or a problem that need to be fixed. Some people are happier in a couple but some people aren't.

Also a lot of my family who have been married a long time, got together when they were both really, really young and basically grew up together. Maybe it's harder for two older adults to make the right level of compromise?

You do realise a lot of grown women reject those magazines as rubbish though? ;-) I think it's the part where they run articles about self-esteem and then follow them up with 90 pages of ads for surgery, makeup and unaffordable clothes modelled by people who lose their jobs if they eat……