With the benefit of hindsight...

She was nearly a child

Franco has allegedly done things wrong, but Yi is advocating for mob punishment rather than teachable moments and any sort of rehabiliation.

They were basically married off by their Mom to a creepy old man when they were 16, but I believe the relationship started earlier than that. The Mom and Husband also had some weird relationship that I don’t care to think about.
Stodden was hugely sexualized as a young woman and was fodder for reality shows and gossip…

That MJ documentary spent a lot of time going over the work he did with the parents to build trust, make them comfortable, ingratiate himself with the family, etc. But yes, they should know better.

I think that bullet goes more towards ending retributive hiring practices that have made it harder for folks who are vocal about abuse to get jobs than about actively seeking out survivors. I think the intent is to stop abusing folks twice over by having them live through the abuse and then see themselves not get…

I’ll take it to mean make a point of hiring women who’ve been wronged especially since in many or most cases they’ll suffer career repercussions for standing up for themselves.

I was gonna wholly disagree but the notification didn’t show the * part ^^
Yeah sure, if it’s hidden, and if it’s an actual human being that interacts with you directly and personnally, it’s iffy af ^^

I was thinking this as I read the response. Should the husband be shamed, no? But he probably should have informed his wife that he was going to be doing this. And yeah, drawing a comparison between using a hot personal trainer, and paying someone for sex or sex adjacent work is just silly. They are obviously different…

I wonder the extent to which people hire non-sex worker professionals largely based on looks (and without the intention to sexually harass them).

I'm feeling attacked on multiple levels. 

Agreed. I don’t think her issue is “my husband’s been getting off on personalized porn.” Any person with an OnlyFans subscription is essentially getting off on personalized porn in some way. And it doesn’t seem that her issue is the money (for me it would definitely, DEFINITELY, be the money). Her issue is that she’s…

Yeah, even if she would never miss the money it seems like Dan totally missed the point of the question - she feels like he was lying to her, she feels like maybe they aren’t as compatible as she thought, she is having an emotional/psychological reaction to this. And Dan got all hung up on the money and kinda gaslit…

I was gonna say—is this a common scenario? That a woman (or anybody) hires a hairdresser because they like looking at him? I mean sure in jobs like that looks (or personal presentation) matter, but it’s not to get a sexual thrill while getting a hair cut (at least not usually). And even if you do fantasize about that…

Musk does interesting things (not as in designing stuff, but as in managing an interestingly daring company and pushing for interesting space tech innovation), and I’m not too unhappy that his weird Tintin project was selected for the moon (better him than Bezos, I suppose).

she seems entirely concerned with reckoning with this new information about her husband and what that means for how they relate to each other sexually

I agree that erotic autonomy is good and necessary, but in my mind what FINDAMN’s husband is doing isn’t the same as watching porn or flirting to add to the spank bank (not that those are the only ways to have erotic autonomy). The money and kink are the focus in the reply, but I would be bothered by the sharing of…

For a lot of men back then (and now, hell) women represent domestication, rules, social stricture, etc. I suspect this has a lot to do with the fact that marriage and family often mark the end of a time in life that is usually pretty fun and probably has the most amount of freedom that you’ll ever have in your life.…

This comment was so great I Cain twice.

Nero Wolfe. Probably my all-time favourite fictional detective, but there’s really no getting around the fact that he’s an unapologetic misogynist (though apparently the author by all accounts wasn’t and was trying to lampoon misogyny). In addition, many’s the time I’ve been enjoying a good old-fashioned classic…