I never got why it was such a big deal either, on its face its no more ridiculous than Bowie being Ziggy Stardust or whatever. But in retrospect I guess it was a bit jarring for someone who had built their high profile career being pretty earnest for ten years suddenly turning around and saying “hey guys, my next…

Good points! The husband kind of didn’t lay out all the rules up front and behaved somewhat unethically himself. There’s definitely some consent issues with the husband, at least the first time he just started jerking off on the phone.

I think a big part of the problem was the cancelation of the film. I remember people thinking he had gone nuts because they had no idea it was supposed to be a tie-in. I actually liked most of the songs on the album and even remember using “Lost in You” for falsetto practice back in men’s choir. Of course, I've been a…

Yeah, this isn’t being talked about enough. Transphobia is championed by British progressives, and it’s a trend that’s emerged more prominently in the last few years that Rowling amplified, but is far from an isolated point of view. 

A few months ago Eddie Redmayne, while making it clear he disagreed with Rowling’s transphobia and is appalled by all the hatred for trans people worldwide, said he also thinks some of the vitriol towards her went too far, and Sam Barsanti was all “Bothsidesism!” and stuff.

Opinions are by definition subjective. The rights of others are not open to subjective interpretations from random people. Can we stop JKR from thinking she’s somehow fighting the good fight by saying trans women should not be treated the same as ciswomen? No, we can’t. But brushing off her vile beliefs and rhetoric…

One of my favorites was Garth sitting around a campfire with a bunch of real cowboys. All the other guys have ratty leather clothes and thick facial hair, meanwhile Garth has his dress shirt and headset mic and he’s like “Uh, dunno if I belong.” 

how is it that so many people refuse to understand power dynamics in a relationship.

I especially loved how the first time he hosted he played himself in the Mango commercial, where he sees the gay exotic dancer Mango and immediately falls completely in love with him. And then the second time it turned out Mango was in love with Chris Gaines, and Garth Brooks revealed that he actually was Chris…

And he was game. I need to look up the episode with the game show parody “Old French Whore,” in which each of the innocent young contestants is paired with an old French whore. Garth did not play one of the innocent young contestants, nor was he the MC.

This is the same BS argument that says: “If you didn’t want your nude photographs stolen by hackers, you shouldn’t have have kept them on your cell phone.” By this logic you could hand wave virtually any abusive relationship, since many of them include “signs” of abuse to varying degrees. Bottom line: A person who…

I still remember the SNL where Garth hosted and Chris Gaines was the musical guest, and they edited it so that when it came time for the musical segments, one of them introduced the other.

This is a consent question. If your friend consents to his wife having sex with other men on the condition that he hears about it afterwards—and hears about it from those other men—that condition has to be met for the sex she’s having with other men to be consensual.

In general, you don’t need to refer to someone’s old name or pronouns unless it’s like, very specifically relevant. Even with someone as high profile as Elliot Page, you can always say he and Elliot, even when talking about female roles he played. It’s not like getting married or changing your first name because you…

His name wasn’t always Elliott, but for most trans people, their old name is called a deadname for a reason - that’s not a comfortable identity for them and it’s not something they want to be reminded of.

Time heals most wounds. Usually, if something you enjoy has been tainted by an unpleasant association, the simplest thing to do is to just be willing to put it aside for a while and let some distance build up. Use the time as an opportunity to try new things, discover new loves, enrich and improve yourself in other…

In my experience, assholes calibrate the level of asshole behavior they can unleash on their targets.

She was publicly silent about her personal experiences last summer (although, if I remember, she might have liked/retweeted Fisher). She’s talked about this in her original tweets - Fisher’s statements brought up a lot of intense feelings that she repeatedly describes as overwhelming.

She did not remain silent and was in fact part of the WB investigation.

Remained silent how? She was one of the witnesses during the investigation.